seffysmiles
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My ex doesn't want our oldest to come to his house any more for his weekends. the 9yr old says she is fine with this and she never wants to see him again. I don't know what went on but shes not talking and ex says she "hurt his and his wifes feelings". My kids just got back from a 2week visit with their father and now are acting weird. Example : They woke me up this morning (I'm a stay at home mom) and for the next half hour repeatedly appologized for waking me up. I told them repeatedly as children it was their job to bug mommy and I wasn't mad. Both have been saying sorry for the littlest things and they keep asking if I'm mad at them. I'm not mad just concerned, cause my 6yr old doesn't want to go alone next time. Both girls said step mom says things like "I'll get rid of you two before I'll ever get rid of my dogs.", and fights supposedly awful with their dad physically in front of them. My husband and I don't fight in front of the kids. He has never hit me, and I have never hit him. We both get really quiet when mad and normally go our separate ways till we calm down, then we talk. The kids are with me 90% of the time so they just don't see fighting and it scares them.
Ok, my question is can he refuse one and take the other? Is this abuse? The 9yr old has almost borderline hate for her father and this time no amount on my part of "your father loves you" is helping. Any advice? Please?
Ok, my question is can he refuse one and take the other? Is this abuse? The 9yr old has almost borderline hate for her father and this time no amount on my part of "your father loves you" is helping. Any advice? Please?