tylerdurden
New Member
I'm in California
My question is about child custody.
My boys are 11 and 9. we are extremely close, considering I've taken a hand in everything they've ever done. I 've coached their sports, taught them martial arts, music and we do our private 'boys' trips (fishing,videogames comic cons).
Mom cheated and got caught and when we found out she promised 50/50 because the kids and I are so close.
NOW that we are in the system, she has a lawyer and I cant afford one, mediation came and went and the paper work states 'parents will decide days and times of visits between homes' , joint legal / joint physical.
While I was outside of the court her lawyer put paper work in stating I agreed to every other weekend with only 1, 2 hour dinner visit during the week. the same day I told her I do not agree and we need to amend this and work together. She is determined to fight me every step of the way for the boys for some reason. She wont let them come home outside of the times listed when I or the boys ask her, but when she has dates or goes out of town she is more than willing to drop them off with me. Every time this has happened I wrote it down on a calendar. she is using the kids as a means of collecting child support because her job didnt pan out and her new man wont support her..without cs, she cant pay rent.
All I want is equal time. I've told the court that it's not fair on them for me to be alienated out of their lives and the boys becoming bitter and angry because with her she cant relate to them and wont let them so much as call me. I want 50/50 and to have them home just as much as she has them. I live 2 miles from their school and im off work when they get out so I don't understand what I need to tell the court to hear what im saying.
I've put in paper work for another mediation / court hearing for Aug 3. what do i need to be successful? I don't like being apart from them.
My question is about child custody.
My boys are 11 and 9. we are extremely close, considering I've taken a hand in everything they've ever done. I 've coached their sports, taught them martial arts, music and we do our private 'boys' trips (fishing,videogames comic cons).
Mom cheated and got caught and when we found out she promised 50/50 because the kids and I are so close.
NOW that we are in the system, she has a lawyer and I cant afford one, mediation came and went and the paper work states 'parents will decide days and times of visits between homes' , joint legal / joint physical.
While I was outside of the court her lawyer put paper work in stating I agreed to every other weekend with only 1, 2 hour dinner visit during the week. the same day I told her I do not agree and we need to amend this and work together. She is determined to fight me every step of the way for the boys for some reason. She wont let them come home outside of the times listed when I or the boys ask her, but when she has dates or goes out of town she is more than willing to drop them off with me. Every time this has happened I wrote it down on a calendar. she is using the kids as a means of collecting child support because her job didnt pan out and her new man wont support her..without cs, she cant pay rent.
All I want is equal time. I've told the court that it's not fair on them for me to be alienated out of their lives and the boys becoming bitter and angry because with her she cant relate to them and wont let them so much as call me. I want 50/50 and to have them home just as much as she has them. I live 2 miles from their school and im off work when they get out so I don't understand what I need to tell the court to hear what im saying.
I've put in paper work for another mediation / court hearing for Aug 3. what do i need to be successful? I don't like being apart from them.