Backstory: I am at the complete end of my ropes here. I live in Northern Kentucky for starters. My ex ended up getting pregnant after telling me she was on the birth control pill when she really wasn't, she left me for my good friend and for the entire first year told everyone including him that he was the dad (she was sleeping with us both come to find out) so I had no idea the kid was mine. After that year he ended up leaving her and that's when she decided to come after me saying the kid was mine and wanted child support. I can't count the amount of guys she's been with that she has the child calling dad and supporting her and the kid until they eventually leave her. Well anyway I did end up doing the DNA test and the kid turned out to be mine. That's when she really pushed harder for child support money. The child has been raised by my mom and grandma (they live together) ever since the DNA came back that I was the father. My ex has the kid a few days out of the month and that is literally it and has my mom & grandma watching the kid and fully supporting the kid all month every month besides them few days. A CPS worker is involved and knows the kid has been living with my mom & grandma now full time and being fully supported by them with no help from my ex, not been going to school and a whole listt of things going on. Not a dime of what I pay goes toward my child, my ex blows it on her and her new boyfriend to run around and do drugs and get high. I have sent pics and everything to the CPS worker. It's still an on going case currently. The kid is currently at my moms as we speak like she always is. The child support office took me to court trying to force me to pay $200 which I just this past week got a new job so I couldn't go to that and take the payment they gave me 2 weeks to come up with. Called them the following day and got chewed out for not showing up and being told I'm going to be served with papers to go to court and be charged with a crime because this is a crime! What the heck! Crime??? Isn't the crime my ex collecting this money like she's been knowing the kid lives with my mom all month long every month and fully supported by my mom and not a dime of the child support payments are spent on the kid???!!! Child support office doesn't give a flying flip because my ex has "custody". My ex is using the kid to get free money is what she's doing and it's messed up. I'm over 5 grand behind in back child support. I don't even wanna pay on a kid who lives with my mom. I should be paying my mom not my ex to basically have drug money and money for herself. I don't get it at all. I could be facing jail time over this for struggling to pay due to no job. I just got a new one. I offered to make a payment when I get my first full check of the $200 I couldn't come make on the 5th, they said I could but it's not gonna help me from being served papers being taken to court. What do they want from me???? This is a total nightmare. My ex gets to pawn the kid off to my mom to support full time and be a free baby sitter while she runs around spending MY MONEY on herself and boyfriend. I have thought about filing for emergency custody maybe?? Do I sign my rights over considering I've never met the child anyway who turns 4 this month???? File at the court house to lower monthly and back child support payments since the kid actually lives with my mom???? What can I do???? This is messing up my life and putting a strain on everything in my life and my ex is eating it up. I'm lost. Please what do I do from here??? Child support takes payments out on their own when I do work so its not like I haven't payed nothing, I do what I can. I really do. Its just hard knowing the money isn't even going to the kid. Can my ex get into trouble for this, meaning collecting money when the kid isn't even living with her and being supported fully by my mom? Can I take this to court somehow in my favor? Help?????