- Jurisdiction
- Minnesota
I have no custody order in place, we have a hearing set for later this month. My child's father has been keeping her from me for almost two months now. I had her for a few days and then he picked her up from daycare and hasn't returned her in 3 weeks (for the second time in two months). I've been so depressed (I'm also a witness in a trial to testify against the man that molested me), I just lost my job (trust me, I know how this looks), my ex has been harrassing me and stalking me for months and I have proof. So, there were a few nights I went out drinking and decided to take some adderrall or a sniff of something stronger. I've been clean for 2 years up until the last few months and i've only used recreationally, barely anything at all. My daughter was never with me when i've chosen to do that either. But my ex got wind of what I did and is requesting a hair follicle test at the hearing that I will probably fail. Let me just say that I am a good mother and always have been. I love my daughter to death and we have a super close relationship. Since she's been born I've worked my ass off to get somewhere in life and I was successful. My ex hated that because he's a loser. So, unfortunately now I have to worry about this stupid test making it look like i'm a habitual drug user and that's far from the case. I would NEVER use drugs if I had my daughter with me so in my opinion it wouldnt be fair to take my child from me for this. Do you think they'll give me a chance to prove myself for awhile before they make a final decision? Not one person on the planet could or would say that I'm a bad mom in fact quite the opposite. My ex is an abusive psycho and is manipulating everything so that he doesn't have to pay child support. He's never paid a dime of child support and I've had her since the day she was born. I've supported her, without government assistance, the entire time. I'm also going to file for a restraining order on Monday due to his abuse and stalking. He's also a felon and has an old assault charge with substancial bodily harm. I will be getting an attorney next week when my taxes come back, my ex has had one for months. But I just need to know what I can do to prove that I'm the better parent, even though I had a couple rough nights and had some fun while my daughter was away. I just need somebody to tell me that they're not just going to take her from me over this. Wouldn't they have to prove that I'm an unfit parent? There is no proof of that anywhere so will they take that into consideration? I've met many parents that are active addicts that are unfit, in those cases I understand how they lose their kids. But this is not at all the same. I'm hoping one positive test won't ruin mine and my daughter's life because that's not fair to either of us. My daughter needs me and I'd never do drugs or get drunk around her, it was lapse of judgement but like i said I didn't have my daughter with me for weeks at a time. How can I get out of the test? The only reason I say that isn't because I'm an active addict that doesn't wanna get caught, I ask because I'm a good mother and my daughter and I deserve to be together. I've been her sole provider since day one. Please help. Thank you