- Jurisdiction
- Florida
My question involves a marriage in the state of: Florida
Good morning all,
My name is William, I have been married roughly 3.5 years to a Green Card holder. 90% of which has been terribly rocky. The woman I married was in the United States on a Visitor Visa in OVERSTAY status. I did not know that at the time and did not understand the Immigration system at the time. I just knew she had a VISA. We got married within 6 months of meeting and at that time I knew her status and legal situation, I didn't care because I honestly loved everything about her. As soon as we got married and began the immigration process things began rapidly change. I thought it was stress from work and starting a new life here and the stress of getting her 3 kids in Process to move here as well. Things just got bad, No love no affection Terrible sex once every 6-9 months, yelling screaming Fighting, Breaking things, Throwing Pictures, breaking glass, Flipping tables, Trying to hit me in the head with a crucifix she took off my wall then trying to break my tv with it, violent threats of bodily harm while holding knives, Wishing she had a gun so she could shoot the house up then 5 min later telling me that I should take my gun and shoot myself in the head with it (Because she abandoned me in the Sao Paulo Brazil airport by myself I didn't know what to do so I called her brother to ask for advice)... Anyways things have been terrible... She also physically assaulted me twice in Brazil but as a foreigner I wasn't about to create any drama so I remained calm and let her do her thing. She is clearly unstable.
Over the last 3 years I kept attributing her behavior to stress from Covid, Work and her childrens immigration process but it NEVER gets better. So A little Financial History
When we met she was working as a Maid for someone making $20 per home. I asked her why doesn't she start her own Maid Business and making $120+ per home. She replied she didn't have a car. SO I bought her a 2016 Honda Accord, I created a Business name, Designed a Logo, Created Shirts, Business Cards, Pens and a Car Magnet to advertise. I Created an LLC for her and Found Business insurance, Paid with my own money to get her going... She started with 4 clients now cleans 3-5 homes a day 5-6 days a week at $120-$200 do the Math... Roughly $12,000 per month
I opened a joint bank account for us but she never deposited anything and never used it. So I was added to her bank account but she rarely used that. She uses her other account for business and pleasure. I never saw anything because she kept it separate from me sending a lot of it to Brazil to support her mom and 3 kids.
OUR HOME: My home I owned it prior to meeting her. My name on the Mortgage, My name on the Deed.
I pay 100% of the mortgage
99% of the time I pay all the utilities. occasionally she will help out. But over 3.5 years that's equated to roughly $1,000 for her.
I paid her car payment up until I took out a HELOC and paid it off, Now I just pay the HELOC by my self.
I bought 90% of the furniture by myself and paid it all off by myself.
Money has been so extremely tight that I can afford to take her out on dates and so she calls me cheap and complains. Ive bought her Louis Vuitton Purses I can't afford just to try and make her happy but that only temporary. I try so hard and now that 2 of 3 of her kids are her I have become nothing but a tool.
I dont know what to do... I am a Military Veteran with Service connected PTSD and After she told me I should Shoot myself in the head, I filled out divorce papers on my own because I cant afford an attorney and I dont want to complicate or slow the process. I got them notarized and presented her her copies to do the same. We do not have any children together. She said she was going to get an attorney... I am not trying to take anything from her that isnt hers. She can keep the car, keep her business, I want nothing more than for her to sign the papers, pack her things and leave my home.
I dont want the police involved I dont know what to do...What rights do I have? Do I risk loosing my home to her if we have been married 3 years and she isnt on anything? How can I get her to sign the papers and move on? She was on the phone yesterday talking about flying back to Brazil for another trip.
Any advice would be AMAZING... I am a Firefighter for the US AirForce, I dont have much...
Good morning all,
My name is William, I have been married roughly 3.5 years to a Green Card holder. 90% of which has been terribly rocky. The woman I married was in the United States on a Visitor Visa in OVERSTAY status. I did not know that at the time and did not understand the Immigration system at the time. I just knew she had a VISA. We got married within 6 months of meeting and at that time I knew her status and legal situation, I didn't care because I honestly loved everything about her. As soon as we got married and began the immigration process things began rapidly change. I thought it was stress from work and starting a new life here and the stress of getting her 3 kids in Process to move here as well. Things just got bad, No love no affection Terrible sex once every 6-9 months, yelling screaming Fighting, Breaking things, Throwing Pictures, breaking glass, Flipping tables, Trying to hit me in the head with a crucifix she took off my wall then trying to break my tv with it, violent threats of bodily harm while holding knives, Wishing she had a gun so she could shoot the house up then 5 min later telling me that I should take my gun and shoot myself in the head with it (Because she abandoned me in the Sao Paulo Brazil airport by myself I didn't know what to do so I called her brother to ask for advice)... Anyways things have been terrible... She also physically assaulted me twice in Brazil but as a foreigner I wasn't about to create any drama so I remained calm and let her do her thing. She is clearly unstable.
Over the last 3 years I kept attributing her behavior to stress from Covid, Work and her childrens immigration process but it NEVER gets better. So A little Financial History
When we met she was working as a Maid for someone making $20 per home. I asked her why doesn't she start her own Maid Business and making $120+ per home. She replied she didn't have a car. SO I bought her a 2016 Honda Accord, I created a Business name, Designed a Logo, Created Shirts, Business Cards, Pens and a Car Magnet to advertise. I Created an LLC for her and Found Business insurance, Paid with my own money to get her going... She started with 4 clients now cleans 3-5 homes a day 5-6 days a week at $120-$200 do the Math... Roughly $12,000 per month
I opened a joint bank account for us but she never deposited anything and never used it. So I was added to her bank account but she rarely used that. She uses her other account for business and pleasure. I never saw anything because she kept it separate from me sending a lot of it to Brazil to support her mom and 3 kids.
OUR HOME: My home I owned it prior to meeting her. My name on the Mortgage, My name on the Deed.
I pay 100% of the mortgage
99% of the time I pay all the utilities. occasionally she will help out. But over 3.5 years that's equated to roughly $1,000 for her.
I paid her car payment up until I took out a HELOC and paid it off, Now I just pay the HELOC by my self.
I bought 90% of the furniture by myself and paid it all off by myself.
Money has been so extremely tight that I can afford to take her out on dates and so she calls me cheap and complains. Ive bought her Louis Vuitton Purses I can't afford just to try and make her happy but that only temporary. I try so hard and now that 2 of 3 of her kids are her I have become nothing but a tool.
I dont know what to do... I am a Military Veteran with Service connected PTSD and After she told me I should Shoot myself in the head, I filled out divorce papers on my own because I cant afford an attorney and I dont want to complicate or slow the process. I got them notarized and presented her her copies to do the same. We do not have any children together. She said she was going to get an attorney... I am not trying to take anything from her that isnt hers. She can keep the car, keep her business, I want nothing more than for her to sign the papers, pack her things and leave my home.
I dont want the police involved I dont know what to do...What rights do I have? Do I risk loosing my home to her if we have been married 3 years and she isnt on anything? How can I get her to sign the papers and move on? She was on the phone yesterday talking about flying back to Brazil for another trip.
Any advice would be AMAZING... I am a Firefighter for the US AirForce, I dont have much...
