- Jurisdiction
- Washington
There is this "private" Facebook group called "are we dating the same guy?" The purpose of the group is to protect prospective dating women from dating potentially dangerous men. Typically abusive, toxic or men that have a habit of not being nice to women.
A woman of my past reach out to me several months ago and was down on her luck. I was always supportive of her and wanted to help any way I could. She was going through some things with the father of her child and was very "depressed." I asked her if she wanted to grab a drink sometime to talk and vent. She knew I had a fiance and was happy with her. I had no intent of being anything more than a friend and someone to reach out to. She mentioned if my fiance would know and I told her yes, she would know and not mind. My fiance trusts me and knows I will not do anything to jeopardize our relationship.
Fast forward to a week ago, she post on this "group" about me and how I have asked her for drinks and that my fiance wouldn't care or anything. She warned everyone to "beware" and run. Several women from my past who are members of this group decide to chime in. Most of them are women that I have not talked to or interacted with in several years. At least before the time I have been with my fiance. Most of the women are telling very elaborate stories and every detail of my life and my interactions with them. Very few facts are true and very outlandish. Some women who I went to school with or worked with are stating about how I am "creepy" or I have "harassed" them. These are women I have never interacted with or spoken to at all.
One of these women who is very ambitious decides to research who my fiance is. Find out where she works. Call her and imitates a "customer" and gives her all the facts and informs her about this group and she needs to see everything.
My finace knows me very well and is understanding that a majority of this stuff is false and all in the past regardless. But what she is distressed about is knowing there is a public forum speaking about her and I. Along with having the ability to find out how to contact her and where she works.
My biggest fear is I work in luxury automotive sales. I fear that a past or potential client could be part of this group of this group and recognize who I am. I also do not want the "industry" to see how these false accounts portray me. I have been curious if this is something I can bring attention of an attorney and have a legitimate case. If the least have my name removed from this page and make sure these women cannot contact me or my family anymore.
A woman of my past reach out to me several months ago and was down on her luck. I was always supportive of her and wanted to help any way I could. She was going through some things with the father of her child and was very "depressed." I asked her if she wanted to grab a drink sometime to talk and vent. She knew I had a fiance and was happy with her. I had no intent of being anything more than a friend and someone to reach out to. She mentioned if my fiance would know and I told her yes, she would know and not mind. My fiance trusts me and knows I will not do anything to jeopardize our relationship.
Fast forward to a week ago, she post on this "group" about me and how I have asked her for drinks and that my fiance wouldn't care or anything. She warned everyone to "beware" and run. Several women from my past who are members of this group decide to chime in. Most of them are women that I have not talked to or interacted with in several years. At least before the time I have been with my fiance. Most of the women are telling very elaborate stories and every detail of my life and my interactions with them. Very few facts are true and very outlandish. Some women who I went to school with or worked with are stating about how I am "creepy" or I have "harassed" them. These are women I have never interacted with or spoken to at all.
One of these women who is very ambitious decides to research who my fiance is. Find out where she works. Call her and imitates a "customer" and gives her all the facts and informs her about this group and she needs to see everything.
My finace knows me very well and is understanding that a majority of this stuff is false and all in the past regardless. But what she is distressed about is knowing there is a public forum speaking about her and I. Along with having the ability to find out how to contact her and where she works.
My biggest fear is I work in luxury automotive sales. I fear that a past or potential client could be part of this group of this group and recognize who I am. I also do not want the "industry" to see how these false accounts portray me. I have been curious if this is something I can bring attention of an attorney and have a legitimate case. If the least have my name removed from this page and make sure these women cannot contact me or my family anymore.
