My daughters was trying to get leagal custody of her son due to the baby daddy lives in a recovery home and until baby was 4 months old wanted nothing to do with him. She went for mediation last week baby daddy now wants visitation wednesday night all day friday,saturday,sunday. The court suggested visitation once a week for a month then over nights. She is to return on August 4th to court. There was a letter form a women who said visitation could be at her home. My daughter has never heard of her and is unconfortable doing this. Baby daddy's family have disowned him due to past behavior Baby daddy has been agressive in the past and cut my daught's chin with a broken beer bottle. How can we get information from the rehab's he was kicked out of and his recent behavior at the recovery home to show a pattern? Any info can help she is not sure if she will be able to geta legal aid to next court date
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Proserpina
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Once he's legally established as Dad, he has every right to joint legal custody with ample visitation. It will probably be graduated at first, but will usually lead up to overnights and weekends and longer periods during summer.
His past history frankly only matters in one sense - he will not be allowed to have overnights while he's in either a halfway house or recovery center. But once he gets out?
He's absolutely entitled to have time with his child.
Other than that, your daughter basically decided he's good Daddy material; until she can prove him legally unfit - which is TERRIFICALLY difficult - the court will agree with her decision and he'll have every right to parent his child.
His past history frankly only matters in one sense - he will not be allowed to have overnights while he's in either a halfway house or recovery center. But once he gets out?
He's absolutely entitled to have time with his child.
Other than that, your daughter basically decided he's good Daddy material; until she can prove him legally unfit - which is TERRIFICALLY difficult - the court will agree with her decision and he'll have every right to parent his child.
Sorry but Dad does have some rights and he is entitled to visits with his child. The fact he didnt see the child until 4 months old is not a big deal. Mom can certainly ask for supervised visitation for 6 months or so and ask that Dad take a drug test. If she did not report the assault then that might not do any good. Mom can ask that visits take place in her home for now. Supervised visits though will not last forever. This man was good enough for her to have sex with and have a baby by he must not be that bad.
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I dont have a problem with daddy visiting baby supervised by someone we know or at our home we have done this. I would think it prudent for dad to be able to live on his own(not in rehab or halfway house)for 6-12 months with no legal,mental or substance issues before baby is put in a ? situation. The so called house offered on his side has a women that owns the house with chronic medical issues and has been suicidal recently.Baby daddy was hospitalized over the weekend with "Majior Bipola Episode" I would like to know how to get his rehab and halfway home record to show his history how would I do that?
I dont have a problem with daddy visiting baby supervised by someone we know or at our home we have done this. I would think it prudent for dad to be able to live on his own(not in rehab or halfway house)for 6-12 months with no legal,mental or substance issues before baby is put in a ? situation. The so called house offered on his side has a women that owns the house with chronic medical issues and has been suicidal recently.Baby daddy was hospitalized over the weekend with "Majior Bipola Episode" I would like to know how to get his rehab and halfway home record to show his history how would I do that?
bluemann33
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can you hire an attorney? You would think the babies saftey would be #1 issue for the courts but without deff. proof he is most likley to get the visitation rights at some point.
I believe all records from rehab and the halfway house are covered by HIPAA, which means you will not be able to access that information without permission from the father of the baby.
I don't know how you know about the father's bipolar episode or the medical issues of the woman who owns the house, but if you can't prove it, then you can't use it.
It's unfortunate that your daughter chose this man to be a father. Surely he's had these problems for quite some time. So, as has been said by Proserpina and Duranie, the court will assume that she was aware of this when she chose him to father her child. That will be a big hurdle for your daughter to overcome in court.
As Bluemann suggested, your daughter needs an attorney.
BTW, when she goes to court, your daughter (or preferably, her attorney) will do the talking. You are not a party to this, and will most likely only be allowed to observe. If your daughter will not have an attorney, she must be prepared to represent herself.
I don't know how you know about the father's bipolar episode or the medical issues of the woman who owns the house, but if you can't prove it, then you can't use it.
It's unfortunate that your daughter chose this man to be a father. Surely he's had these problems for quite some time. So, as has been said by Proserpina and Duranie, the court will assume that she was aware of this when she chose him to father her child. That will be a big hurdle for your daughter to overcome in court.
As Bluemann suggested, your daughter needs an attorney.
BTW, when she goes to court, your daughter (or preferably, her attorney) will do the talking. You are not a party to this, and will most likely only be allowed to observe. If your daughter will not have an attorney, she must be prepared to represent herself.
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The reason my daughter filed was advice from a lawyer who wanted $2000 . Legal aide was unable to help her. I did find a lawyer who does free consulting and does not charge by the hour or collect a retainer. He was great. To start with the home that was in ? the info I collected would have been excepted in court it was from facebook and open records. what I found would open a case from child and youth and as a agent of the court her lawyer will be passing the info on to the right authority. The BEST part is he explained she could just withdraw the petition which she did the judge cancelled the court date. Baby daddy can refile but he would have to pay court costs plus paternity testing. we at least have more time and with the info we found that will not be the home my grandson will ever be staying in.
Thank You for all the hlpl I have recieved
The reason my daughter filed was advice from a lawyer who wanted $2000 . Legal aide was unable to help her. I did find a lawyer who does free consulting and does not charge by the hour or collect a retainer. He was great. To start with the home that was in ? the info I collected would have been excepted in court it was from facebook and open records. what I found would open a case from child and youth and as a agent of the court her lawyer will be passing the info on to the right authority. The BEST part is he explained she could just withdraw the petition which she did the judge cancelled the court date. Baby daddy can refile but he would have to pay court costs plus paternity testing. we at least have more time and with the info we found that will not be the home my grandson will ever be staying in.
Thank You for all the hlpl I have recieved
Proserpina
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Uh...ok. That sounds wrong on a million different levels but hey.
Good luck with that.
Good luck with that.
army judge
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mommom said:
You're seeking an easy answer to a difficult problem. There aren't any. But, it's your life. You're free to choose the course of action that works best for you.
The problem is, you're being bamboozled. He's looking out for himself. Hasn't he always done that?
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army judge
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mommom said:
Why would you ever trust the venomous snake that almost killed you????????????????????????
Once that snake has bitten you, he'll most surely do it again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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