babieduc13
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My son is 16.(i also have an older son who is 22) He has always resided with me and Ive always had joint custody with my ex but Ive always had Physical Custody. Well in 08 I remarried, and my husband had to relocate for work and my son did not want to move,he begged and pleaded with me to allow him to stay in Va.(we moved to Ga.) with his father(who is living with his parents at 37yrs old) he kept saying if i didnt agree he would raise hell and tell others that my husband and I beat him since we were both in Law Enforcement at the time,we didnt want that,nor did I want to put my son through a horrible custody battle between myself and my ex,so after weeks of his constant begging I reluctantley agreed. I was heartbroken. The agreement was that if within 6 months he could show me that he could behave for his father and do well in school that I would allow him to stay in Va.but that he had to also maintain a relationship with me and visit in the summers and stay with me on my visits to Va,he agreed and so did his father. Well my son turned 15 Sept.08 and after celebrating his birthday,I moved. after I moved he went CRAZY! Started getting into trouble at school, his grades went downhill,he wouldnt take any of my calls,answer letters,or emails and neither would his father. The attempts I made to email his father ended with very nasty emails from him..saying I was the cause of our son lashing out. I finally sent a copy of our court order that stated his father and I have joint custody w/my ex having physical and got a copy of his school records..bad very bad. I contacted a few Law enforcement connections in Va.and found out he had criminal charges,finally he called me..i told him I wanted him to come live with me once all the hearings for this case were over and he was angry.His father told me to keep my *!^ in Ga. It was horrible,a couple of weeks later my son called me and said him and his father had got into a huge argument that his father had got drunk and got in my sons face threathen to harm him,so I told him to go stay with my mother and father and I would be there Sunday well Saturday night he called to tell me he had changed his mind,he was staying with his dad.(He did spend 5 days with me in Ga when his father did 7days in jail for a second DUI).Well I had asked my son and his father to keep me updated on the court case and that I was planning on being there,well they didnt.I had to call some court clerks I knew to find out dates..shortly after I filed for Physical Custody back of my son. My husband and I own our cabin in GA,we have horses,chickens and land in a rural area.We have lived here almost two years now,my husband is still in Law enforcement and works part time for a Juvenile Boot Camp at Ft.Gordon as a drill instructor,I work for a local Nuclear Pharmacy.My ex recently remarried and is still residing with his parents,his wife and two of his wifes four kids.Full house. We have 3 extra bedrooms..and one already has been set up for my son. I want to know what I should furnish when I go to court May 11th,There has been a gaurdian at litem set for his case but he has yet to do a home study.