asmacumber
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Okay, here are the facts ... my wife received papers from her son's father this past week stating that she is being sued, with many modification requests being made with the most serious being that he be able to determine the child's primary residence and receive child support.
My wife has had custody since birth and her son is now almost 5 years old. The father is 45 years-old (meaning he will be 58 when their son is 18), single (he has a girlfriend but they are not engaged as far as I know), is missing most of an arm (which is a disability), and never graduated high school or college (he works for his mom and dad and only ever worked one other place but was fired from that.) Also, every time he has his son it seems that his mother comes and stays with him (maybe implying that he needs help watching him.)
She is 35 years-old, is a nurse (has a bachelors and was just accepted into the masters program at TCU to become a nursing teacher), is married and has a stable home life.
Our attorney told us that the perception is that he would have to prove her unfit to take custody, but in reality he only has to prove it would be "in the child's best interest". To me that says that while he may not have to prove her unfit, he does have to prove himself to be "more fit". Am I wrong in thinking this way? And in reality, how easy is this for him to do? I know you don't know the particulars, but suffice it to say she is a great mother (I wouldn't be with her otherwise as I have kids of my own) and in my opinion he is a good playmate but is somewhat lacking in the "parenting" department.
Also, how long of a battle are we really looking at here? His parents own a business and are better off than we are so his resources could potentially outlast ours if it stretches on too long ...
Thanks for all your help!
My wife has had custody since birth and her son is now almost 5 years old. The father is 45 years-old (meaning he will be 58 when their son is 18), single (he has a girlfriend but they are not engaged as far as I know), is missing most of an arm (which is a disability), and never graduated high school or college (he works for his mom and dad and only ever worked one other place but was fired from that.) Also, every time he has his son it seems that his mother comes and stays with him (maybe implying that he needs help watching him.)
She is 35 years-old, is a nurse (has a bachelors and was just accepted into the masters program at TCU to become a nursing teacher), is married and has a stable home life.
Our attorney told us that the perception is that he would have to prove her unfit to take custody, but in reality he only has to prove it would be "in the child's best interest". To me that says that while he may not have to prove her unfit, he does have to prove himself to be "more fit". Am I wrong in thinking this way? And in reality, how easy is this for him to do? I know you don't know the particulars, but suffice it to say she is a great mother (I wouldn't be with her otherwise as I have kids of my own) and in my opinion he is a good playmate but is somewhat lacking in the "parenting" department.
Also, how long of a battle are we really looking at here? His parents own a business and are better off than we are so his resources could potentially outlast ours if it stretches on too long ...
Thanks for all your help!
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