Contact number lost

[lentz1]

My wife and her ex husband have a kid. We lost his phone number. His supposed to see his son twice a month. Will I be held responsible for anything at all if unable to contact the father due to contact number lost.

 

[adjusterjack]

I'm guessing he'll be calling your wife as his next visitation gets closer.

But, no, I don't see your wife having any obligation to initiate contact for the father's visitation unless the court order says to.

However, I find it bizarre that you can't think of a way to contact him. Like looking back over your phone's call record. And your wife never emailed him? That should be on the computer. Maybe the kid has been in contact with his father and has his number or email address. Presumably your wife has papers that have his address so she can write to him asking for contact. You're not really that dense, are you?

 

[lentz1]

Okay, that's enough, thank you.

 

[leslie82]

My wife and her ex husband have a kid. We lost his phone number. His supposed to see his son twice a month. Will I be held responsible for anything at all if unable to contact the father due to contact number lost.

You have no legal obligation to the child so no you won't be held accountable for anything with visitation.

 

[lentz1]

You have no legal obligation to the child so no you won't be held accountable for anything with visitation.

What are the steps for me to take to have legal obligation?

 

[leslie82]

What are the steps for me to take to have legal obligation?

You are the stepparent right? You will never have any legal obligation to your spouse's child unless you were to adopt that child. I very highly doubt that your wife's ex husband is going to give up his rights to allow that.

Stepparents are legally strangers. You don't get to make decisions on visitation, child support, medical, etc. That's just the way it is.

Your WIFE has to make all the contact with her ex husband. She has to keep his information updated as much as he updates her. She has to set up visitation drop offs and pickups. Not you. You can pick up the kids and drop them off if they both agree. But you don't get any say in any of it.

 

[army judge]

You have no legal obligation to the child so no you won't be held accountable for anything with visitation.

Realistically, enjoy your unique position.
You can be a male role model, assist your spouse, without the legal responsibility for another man's child.
I'm sure you'd want that if it were your child.

A smart stepparent knows its better being in the shadows and staying out of his/her spouse's former marital and parental woes.

Beyond that, you and she have your own marriage and lives to manage.

 

[leslie82]

Trust me - I was a stepparent. I stupidly let myself get into arguments with his ex wife. I would let things go but when I would see her make her daughter cry or abuse visitation I would say something. It did no good. It just added stress to my life which is already full of stress taking care of a medically fragile kid on top of having their kids there.

I still care about my daughter's siblings but they aren't my kids at the end of the day even when I was married to their dad. I did my best with them to be a positive influence. I still talk to my daughter's sister.