darahsersch
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My son's father and I had no custody order, so I was advised by a family lawyer (in Pennsylvania) that it'd be okay to move out of state as I please with my son. So we moved to Arizona March 10. March 12, my son's father filed for custody. My son's father and I had a custody conciliation this past May. He is clearly unfit to be a father but yet was granted with joint physical custody, with me having to fly my child from Arizona to Pennsylvania 3 times a year for 2 weeks at a time (for now). My son has no idea who his father is and I don't feel comfortable sending him off with a stranger. He was granted custody rights 5/9 and was scheduled to have him every day until 5/13, our last day in town. The conciliator told me that it didn't matter what I had to say about anything when I tried to argue her "suggestions" because I moved away and I'm in the wrong. Therefore, she put all the traveling expenses on my end. Which isn't cheap, around $1000.00 each trip.
5/10, he was late picking our son up and late dropping him off, giving me only one minutes notice that he was going to be late.
5/11, he took his girlfriend to a concert in NJ instead of coming to get our son. He sent his mother instead to come get him. I refused to give him to her because she, also is a stranger and the court order is between my son's father and I. I also had my lawyer talk to her and confirm that it was between my son's father and I.
5/12, my sons father dropped him off 20 minutes early. So clearly, he had more important things to do rather than spend the whole time he was given.
5/13, our last day in town. He was to have our son from 10 am to 6 pm. He didn't show up until 2:13 pm.
He was granted a total of 32 hours, but only used 19 hours of them.
The conciliator and his lawyer had to be working together. I didn't get the chance to argue anything that he said. I was just "in the wrong" and everything he was saying was "right" as the conciliator said.
When I returned home and received the court order in the mail. I found the his lawyer and the conciliator were both from the same address, with suites directly beside each other. Is that enough of a connection? I want to turn the conciliator in because as a conciliator, it is not in her job description to takes sides of either party in a custody dispute or any kind of matter. It just seemed a little shady because his lawyer was never even announced as representing him. She just showed up with him the day of the conciliation.
5/10, he was late picking our son up and late dropping him off, giving me only one minutes notice that he was going to be late.
5/11, he took his girlfriend to a concert in NJ instead of coming to get our son. He sent his mother instead to come get him. I refused to give him to her because she, also is a stranger and the court order is between my son's father and I. I also had my lawyer talk to her and confirm that it was between my son's father and I.
5/12, my sons father dropped him off 20 minutes early. So clearly, he had more important things to do rather than spend the whole time he was given.
5/13, our last day in town. He was to have our son from 10 am to 6 pm. He didn't show up until 2:13 pm.
He was granted a total of 32 hours, but only used 19 hours of them.
The conciliator and his lawyer had to be working together. I didn't get the chance to argue anything that he said. I was just "in the wrong" and everything he was saying was "right" as the conciliator said.
When I returned home and received the court order in the mail. I found the his lawyer and the conciliator were both from the same address, with suites directly beside each other. Is that enough of a connection? I want to turn the conciliator in because as a conciliator, it is not in her job description to takes sides of either party in a custody dispute or any kind of matter. It just seemed a little shady because his lawyer was never even announced as representing him. She just showed up with him the day of the conciliation.