- Jurisdiction
- California
My son's father came to pick up our son for his visitation pick up. In the past (and still), he's had issues following court orders. He has a suspended license and is not suppoed to drive our son alone unless he has a ride. Police in the past have told me that if he comes alone and has a suspended license, then I'm allowed to deny his visitation and say why on talking parents and address it in court for whenever we go next. Lately we've been working on getting along and working on talking to address any issues.
This day he came, he had no license (temporary license expired days before, he provided me the papers) and i nicely told him that he cannot take our son because of a suspended license. He proceeds to tell me it's my responsibility to ask him about it and that I'm responsible to inform him when it expires. I said no, it is yours. Then he continues with making up lies etc which I've heard all before. I said I'm sorry, we will see you next visitation.
He proceeds to call our son out (he doesn't know what's going on) and he took him, knowing he can't Take our son if he has no ride or license. I followed him since he was ignoring me and forcing our son to leave. Once they got in his car, he started recording me and says "she won't let me leave" and locked the doors.
I tried my best to keep my composure because my son is in his car. I talked to the father through the window and said you do know you have no license so you're not supposed to take him as the police said. He proceeds to almost running over my foot knowingly and out of my defense i slapped his left arm (as if you're slapping a friend's arm and laughing) and i said oh so you're going to run me over?
Then he drives away with our son wearing no seatbelt in his car seat.
I then went to the police and they informed me there's nothing they can do since he didn't run me over and said alot of people drives without no license and that it's between him and i, and that i shouldn't let our son out. I asked if he could use the video they said no.
Next day, he returns with police to overwatch the exchange which is fine by me, and then our son proceeds to tell me and say "daddy has two bruises , one here and one here (both arms). Because daddy told me mommy hit him" Which is absurd because for one, i can't reach his other arm (high suv) and he was wearing a jacket and a slap on the arm won't even cause a bruise, that in the video I'm sure you won't even hear it. I called the police station to make sure , and they said yes he could make the video. So I have two different answers but police said there is no report but doesn't mean that there is any.
So my question is- will this affect custody at all if he is going to try and lie about that? I know exactly what happened as it'll show on video he recorded and the officer (that the father called) will come and speak with me later in the week. I also have an appointment with my lawyer next week to make sure. Just need to ask if it'll have some sort of effect since it is heavy on my mind.
This day he came, he had no license (temporary license expired days before, he provided me the papers) and i nicely told him that he cannot take our son because of a suspended license. He proceeds to tell me it's my responsibility to ask him about it and that I'm responsible to inform him when it expires. I said no, it is yours. Then he continues with making up lies etc which I've heard all before. I said I'm sorry, we will see you next visitation.
He proceeds to call our son out (he doesn't know what's going on) and he took him, knowing he can't Take our son if he has no ride or license. I followed him since he was ignoring me and forcing our son to leave. Once they got in his car, he started recording me and says "she won't let me leave" and locked the doors.
I tried my best to keep my composure because my son is in his car. I talked to the father through the window and said you do know you have no license so you're not supposed to take him as the police said. He proceeds to almost running over my foot knowingly and out of my defense i slapped his left arm (as if you're slapping a friend's arm and laughing) and i said oh so you're going to run me over?
Then he drives away with our son wearing no seatbelt in his car seat.
I then went to the police and they informed me there's nothing they can do since he didn't run me over and said alot of people drives without no license and that it's between him and i, and that i shouldn't let our son out. I asked if he could use the video they said no.
Next day, he returns with police to overwatch the exchange which is fine by me, and then our son proceeds to tell me and say "daddy has two bruises , one here and one here (both arms). Because daddy told me mommy hit him" Which is absurd because for one, i can't reach his other arm (high suv) and he was wearing a jacket and a slap on the arm won't even cause a bruise, that in the video I'm sure you won't even hear it. I called the police station to make sure , and they said yes he could make the video. So I have two different answers but police said there is no report but doesn't mean that there is any.
So my question is- will this affect custody at all if he is going to try and lie about that? I know exactly what happened as it'll show on video he recorded and the officer (that the father called) will come and speak with me later in the week. I also have an appointment with my lawyer next week to make sure. Just need to ask if it'll have some sort of effect since it is heavy on my mind.