Are you saying someone else has been appointed your legal guardian? That is the only way you would not have total control. That is not granted lightly at all. If guardianship is granted by the court and you feel it should not be, then you need to petition the court to have it revoked. The least of your problems is that your boyfriend sold your car a decade ago. If you are staying at a nursing home, they should have some kind of transportation for residents to go to the bank and such. Most residents do not drive.