I live in OK and my ex-wife has always used our two children, boy 10 yrs. and girl 8 yrs., to punish me for not complying with her demands. We have been divorced since 1996, but we started sleeping together a couple of days before the divorce/custody trial. Like a moron, I decided not to show up for trial and let her win by default. (I didn't want to fight anymore). Since that time, I have lived with her many times for periods ranging from a few weeks to, most recently, thirteen months. Currently, she will not let me pick my kids up, let them call me, or let them answer the phone when I call. A friend suggested I find out about change of custody by choice of the children. The have both told me repeatedly they would like to live with me.
Question 1: Is the divorce decree still valid if we were having "relations" before, during and after the trial?
Question 2: What does OK law state about children deciding which parent has custody?
Question 1: Is the divorce decree still valid if we were having "relations" before, during and after the trial?
Question 2: What does OK law state about children deciding which parent has custody?
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