My x-boyfriend and I were together for 2years, in this time we had a daughter. From the time she was born until I left him he claimed he was sick and did not work. Doctors could not find anything wrong with him. For 1 1/2 years I supported us all, him, myself, our daughter, and my son. He seemed to become better and I asked him to work, he didn't. I gave him ultimatums, he still didn't work claiming, "Why should I work when you're paying all the bills." I asked him to move from my rental house, he would not. My son and I were living there years before him. All of my son and daughters friends were there, it was their home. He didn't care. He wanted to inconvience me making me move. Still he was on the lease and driving me crazy. He fought with me every day in front of the children stalked me at work to see if I was there leaving the children alone sleeping. Friends and coworkers will attest to this. (Son 11 daughter born on 12/12) So finally in desperation I moved out. The day I moved out he got a job!! Was he really sick? Soon after I moved out he left the home
He was still following me around and threatening to take the baby, I even had a police officer leave a note on his door because he woke me one morning banging on my door and threatening me. He grew up in England and I was VERY scared of the possibility of him taking her there since there was no court order of custody. I filed for joint custody with me as the domiciliary parent and for him not to be able to leave the parish with the baby. I also worked out a visitation schedule for him. He took my deposit for my rental home, ran up my electric bill and numerous other bills that I'd left on for him at the house, and got himself a very nice apt. Meanwhile my job of 7years was not making the money it used to, the bombing I think, it was in the service industry. My best-friend lives in Chicago and offered to help me move here and find a better job. I was working nights and it was hard not having him home to watch the baby @ night. I worked under 30 hours per/week when we were together, the majority of the time the baby was with him she was asleep. With her at a child care provider it was tough waking her in the middle of the night bringing her home after work. I moved to Chicago, my sons father also lives here and is helping me with him. My uncle is also here, I did not have any family in New Orleans. Of course I have the support of my best-friend, and her brother which is now my boyfriend. We are living together, he has been seperated for a 1 1/2 years he has filed a divorce. He has joint custody of his two children which are 12 and 10 he takes care of his children 1/2 of the time. He owns his own business and his own home. His condo is large but with only 2bedrooms, the boys share a room when they are both here. My daughters bed is in our room, his daughter gets the sofa bed when she's here. My daughters father sent an answer to my petition asking for joint custody and him as the domiciliary parent, the same thing I applied for. The court is in La. (One other thing we were both charged for child abuse by social services, he spanked my son and left marks, I was at work, they said I was charged because I left my son with him while I was at work. The investigation was dropped but the papers are on file.) My son says that many mean things were done to him that he didn't tell me about at the time because he was scared. When this incedence happened with childrens services I started my action on leaving him and moving. He has not seen our daughter for 3weeks now. I filed in Aug. he just counter filed this month. He says his lawyer is asking the judge tomorrow for an emergency hearing. I would have to fly to N.O. for this. I have taken a month off to get my children settled, my son is now in school here. My daughter is enrolled in a library program she goes to every week. I will start working next week. My x tells me that he can make me move back to N.O., can he? If I can't afford it right now he says that he can take the baby from me...can he? He also said I was stupid for filing if I was planning on moving, I thought I was being fair and protecting myself??? I even cashed in my 401k plan to move as he had drained all my resources over his supposedly "sick" time. I can't afford to move back, and I don't want to. I think that this is a much better place to raise children, and my daughter needs me. I am willing to let her visit him, but I don't think equal time would be good for the baby. She'd never get a stable home getting sent back and forth between us every few months. Could someone please give me some idea on what will happen in court??? I'm afriad of him and his bulldog lawyer Thank you ever so much for your time, Mercy
