After reading some of the posts here I understand that anyone can be a parent-its their right regardless of how good or bad they are BUT in some senarios the children should not be subjected to harm physical, mental or otherwise...here is my story; I am looking for a legal opinion. I am willing to seek counsel only if I know I have a shot.
My brother has been diagnosed with Bipolar disorder. He also has an extensive criminal record, alot of domestic battery arrests. He met his wife who has given birth to 7 children (3 have been given up to the state, one was raised by the grandmother till she died and now has custody of, one was removed by the state (born addicted to crack) a couple of times for being with my brother and now currently has custody of this one, and two that have been born since that are allegedly my brothers and have also been removed an placed in foster care about 3 times.The mother has baker acted herself once at which time the children were removed from my brother and placed in foster care.
Currently my brother is on probation for domestic abuse and he and the mother are not to have contact. So the state has put her up in a hotel with 4 kids, while my brother lives in the family home which has been turned into a flop house with 4 tenants and him living in a coverted bedroom, formerly a garage. The children were recently removed from the mother because his P.O. saw the mother at the house. I was contacted by CPS to have a home inspection and to get fingerprinted to possibly receive the kids in my home. I live about 5 counties away. After all was said and done CPS kept the kids in foster care instead of my care and returned them to the mother after 1 month.
The situation with the mother and my brother is volatile and toxic. But they cant stay away from each other as they are both co-dependent ex drug users.
The mother has personality/detachment disorder where she shows no signs of affection/nurturing and if its not in writing she has no knowledge of parenting skills. I have overheard while speaking to my brother on the phone she has said come get the kids she doesnt want them or care.
My brother and I have come from a dysfunctional family situation and I am fortunate to have broken the cycle. But my brother has not. I am willing to receive only the two that are allegedly my brothers. The one that was born crack addicted has personality disorders and I am not able to handle. my brothers 'kids' were not born addicted and are ok to deal with, they just need a stable and safe environment to thrive.
I just know that growing up this way is not good and my brother is living proof of that. If the kids had an opportunity to suceed it would break the cycle of abuse. I feel its too late for my brother. What should I do? I speak to my brother everyday on the phone to make sure there are no meltdowns or arrests and ask about the kids. Thats all I can do from here. Any opinions? Thanks in Advance
My brother has been diagnosed with Bipolar disorder. He also has an extensive criminal record, alot of domestic battery arrests. He met his wife who has given birth to 7 children (3 have been given up to the state, one was raised by the grandmother till she died and now has custody of, one was removed by the state (born addicted to crack) a couple of times for being with my brother and now currently has custody of this one, and two that have been born since that are allegedly my brothers and have also been removed an placed in foster care about 3 times.The mother has baker acted herself once at which time the children were removed from my brother and placed in foster care.
Currently my brother is on probation for domestic abuse and he and the mother are not to have contact. So the state has put her up in a hotel with 4 kids, while my brother lives in the family home which has been turned into a flop house with 4 tenants and him living in a coverted bedroom, formerly a garage. The children were recently removed from the mother because his P.O. saw the mother at the house. I was contacted by CPS to have a home inspection and to get fingerprinted to possibly receive the kids in my home. I live about 5 counties away. After all was said and done CPS kept the kids in foster care instead of my care and returned them to the mother after 1 month.
The situation with the mother and my brother is volatile and toxic. But they cant stay away from each other as they are both co-dependent ex drug users.
The mother has personality/detachment disorder where she shows no signs of affection/nurturing and if its not in writing she has no knowledge of parenting skills. I have overheard while speaking to my brother on the phone she has said come get the kids she doesnt want them or care.
My brother and I have come from a dysfunctional family situation and I am fortunate to have broken the cycle. But my brother has not. I am willing to receive only the two that are allegedly my brothers. The one that was born crack addicted has personality disorders and I am not able to handle. my brothers 'kids' were not born addicted and are ok to deal with, they just need a stable and safe environment to thrive.
I just know that growing up this way is not good and my brother is living proof of that. If the kids had an opportunity to suceed it would break the cycle of abuse. I feel its too late for my brother. What should I do? I speak to my brother everyday on the phone to make sure there are no meltdowns or arrests and ask about the kids. Thats all I can do from here. Any opinions? Thanks in Advance
