- Jurisdiction
- Massachusetts
Exactly as stated in the title. I was literally reported to the DCF for going to the hospital and having a baby. Let me better explain - it is October, 2017 and my husband and I have been separated since March. He left me pregnant and unemployed and has been living in a homeless shelter since. Without going into much detail regarding my marriage, there was a case of domestic violence. He was arrested, the charges were dropped (which I was fine with), but he is not a good husband and much less a good father. I have an 11 year old from a previous marriage, and a 1 year old and a newborn (3 weeks old) from my estranged husband. He was not present during my pregnancy, did not provide a whole lot financially and wasn't simply not there for us with any emotional support either. That said, I did not want him there the day I delivered my newborn daughter. I let the nurses know the situation that I had no desire to see him and did not want him to come around. The nurses thought it would be a good idea to inform the hospital social worker and I did not take kindly to the social worker trying to learn more of my "situation".
I have an intense aversion for the DCF. They have been involved 3 times already. First time because my daughter's school called them (because I spanked my daughter and she went to school very upset over this). Second time because the neighbor heard me yelling at her and the police came. Third time due to the domestic violence from my husband. All of these were investigated, the first two were not supported and the third, my husband got the military involved and it was dropped. As previously stated, I did not take kindly to the social worker at the hospital. I explained that I did not wish to disclose any information and asked if I was legally obligated to talk to her. If not, I'd like to be left alone. She was very pushy and started making threats to call the DCF. Sure enough she did. They didn't even wait for me to leave the hospital and were calling me the very next day. I literally had a complete meltdown at the hospital and could not believe this was happening. I went there to have a baby and now all of a sudden they are getting the DCF involved. I felt as though this was completely unmerited and wrong. When the DCF called I simply told them to leave me alone and hung up on them. They tried to call again after I left the hospital and I told them to do their investigation, contact the kids' pediatrician school, do their thing and LEAVE ME OUT OF IT. It has now been 3 weeks since I delivered and they have now contacted my husband very adamant about meeting with us. When I asked them WHY, they are alleging neglect. Problem is that this "neglect" that they speak of is in regards to last year's report that was closed! What is the neglect this time around? They have nothing to go on so are using a previous report. Can they legally do this? Do I really need to meet with them? At this point I am wanting to sue the hospital for not respecting my privacy and sue the DCF for harrassement. Do I not have the right to not want a deadbeat husband and father at the hospital during my delivery?
I feel very wronged. Wish to be left alone to raise my children as best as I can. Please help me understand my rights, what I can and cannot do.
Thank you for taking the time to read and many thanks to the attorney(s) that will take their times to respond.
Kind regards,
Thais
I have an intense aversion for the DCF. They have been involved 3 times already. First time because my daughter's school called them (because I spanked my daughter and she went to school very upset over this). Second time because the neighbor heard me yelling at her and the police came. Third time due to the domestic violence from my husband. All of these were investigated, the first two were not supported and the third, my husband got the military involved and it was dropped. As previously stated, I did not take kindly to the social worker at the hospital. I explained that I did not wish to disclose any information and asked if I was legally obligated to talk to her. If not, I'd like to be left alone. She was very pushy and started making threats to call the DCF. Sure enough she did. They didn't even wait for me to leave the hospital and were calling me the very next day. I literally had a complete meltdown at the hospital and could not believe this was happening. I went there to have a baby and now all of a sudden they are getting the DCF involved. I felt as though this was completely unmerited and wrong. When the DCF called I simply told them to leave me alone and hung up on them. They tried to call again after I left the hospital and I told them to do their investigation, contact the kids' pediatrician school, do their thing and LEAVE ME OUT OF IT. It has now been 3 weeks since I delivered and they have now contacted my husband very adamant about meeting with us. When I asked them WHY, they are alleging neglect. Problem is that this "neglect" that they speak of is in regards to last year's report that was closed! What is the neglect this time around? They have nothing to go on so are using a previous report. Can they legally do this? Do I really need to meet with them? At this point I am wanting to sue the hospital for not respecting my privacy and sue the DCF for harrassement. Do I not have the right to not want a deadbeat husband and father at the hospital during my delivery?
I feel very wronged. Wish to be left alone to raise my children as best as I can. Please help me understand my rights, what I can and cannot do.
Thank you for taking the time to read and many thanks to the attorney(s) that will take their times to respond.
Kind regards,
Thais