I lost my job for 9 months not knowing I needed to tell the courts. My ex and I were on very good terms and he even told the judge when we went before him for a modification that he was not going to sue me for the back support. During the time I was out of work, I was able to take my 401K from the job loss and from that I gave him a good amt. of that money. Because of the great relationship we had, I never thought to get a receipt. Well no that he is remarried, everything has gone to hell. He "cannot recall" the money I gave him, and of course now wants the back support to the tone of 23K. During the time I was paying him the 1800 a month, he still failed to pay the mortgage et lost the home. (the payment with taxes was only 1100- he had plenty to pay that and feed the children as well with utilities included) My question is this, I have no problem paying back the 23K, the kids are nearly 16 and 17, my daughter lives with me now. Is there a way that the money can go into accounts set purely for them? I want to assure that he has no way of touching the money. My daughter no longer lives with him, and my son is nearly grown. They should have some kind of savings to look forward to.