This is a long story so bare with me...My husband seperated from his ex-wife in 2006. The went through a company called We the People and wrote their own divorce decree. He signed the divorce papers in July 2007 and trusted her to turn them in. They waved their rights to get notified after they were filed. We met in July of 2007 and got married in Aug of 2008. Later found out she didn't turn the papers in until Aug 2009. The ex-wife and 2 children live in Nevada, we live in Texas. We see the kids for about 8 weeks every summer and have the for Christmas every odd year. We are allowed to have them every holiday on odd years, but it is too expensive. We, just my husband, or just myself will fly to Nevada some during the year to see them for a couple days. Because they wrote their own papers, they are pretty much stupid and cater to her. The papers state that my husband is to pay $1083/month which comes out to $499.85/paycheck since he gets paid every other week. Between 2006 and 2008, he gave her money for her rent, her car insurance, payment, and upkeep on top of support for the children. We have actual proof from bank statements that he gave over $16000 to her from July 07-March 08. When he moved to Texas, they came to a verbal agreement of $360/paycheck to help with costs for flights to see the kids. He then began paying $360/paycheck and still sent extra money anytime she asked. We have proof of this too. Unfortunatley, they did not go through the courts, he just paid her directly. We recently had a child together and when he told her I was pregnant, she flew off the handle. She then went to the NV child support office and said that he hasn't been paying the amount they agreed on, conveniently leaving out the verbal agreement and all the extras. He had to go to court in TX and they made him pay $7400 in arrearages. They would not even look at out proof of the extra payments, thank God that he put "child support" in the memo column every time he sent the $360 so they accepted that.
Now, she took him back to court today to take the kids off his insurance and put them on her current husband's, in turn adding $200/month to my husband's child support payments. The judge is making him pay the total amount of insurance premium for his kids, his ex-wife, her husband, and his 2 kids, on top of out seperate insurance fo me, our daughter, and himself.
The papers state that they each claim 1 child on taxes each year, but she has claimed both for 2009, 2010, and 2011.
The papers state that Mother must get children to Father for visitation. She refuses to meet us when we are at his parents for Christmas, which is 8 hours away. She refuses to let them fly unaccompanyed, even though they are of age. And she refuses to fly them down to TX. Therefore, we have to pay for my husband to fly up there and get them, bring them to TX, fly back with them, and himself fly back. Or, if we are at his parent's, she makes us or his parent's drive the 8 hours there and 8 hours back to get them. Otherwise, we won't see them.
Just to tell you what kind of person she is...she doesn't have a highschool diploma, she has supposedly gone and graduated from beauty school to cut hair, but she doesn't do anything with it. She does not have a job and has not had one since 2008. She lives off my husband and her current husband, while we both have jobs and barely make it and recently had to file for bankruptcy. Not saying she is a bad mother, but we don't exactly see eye to eye on our child raising. The kids are aloud to talk back and roll their eyes, they are only fed ramen noodles and macaroni and cheese. They are told that their Dad moved away because he didn't want to be near them. The girls told us this past summer that they have a game where they are allowed to sit up front in the car, but if they see an police car, they have to duck, and she's married to a COP!
Since you cannot change the divorce papers but every 3 years, we have to endure this another year. Is there anything we can do until then? Do we have a leg to stand on? Is it just me or does she take advantage of the system? Also, since we have them for so long in the summer, should we have to pay her child support since we are supporting the children?
Now, she took him back to court today to take the kids off his insurance and put them on her current husband's, in turn adding $200/month to my husband's child support payments. The judge is making him pay the total amount of insurance premium for his kids, his ex-wife, her husband, and his 2 kids, on top of out seperate insurance fo me, our daughter, and himself.
The papers state that they each claim 1 child on taxes each year, but she has claimed both for 2009, 2010, and 2011.
The papers state that Mother must get children to Father for visitation. She refuses to meet us when we are at his parents for Christmas, which is 8 hours away. She refuses to let them fly unaccompanyed, even though they are of age. And she refuses to fly them down to TX. Therefore, we have to pay for my husband to fly up there and get them, bring them to TX, fly back with them, and himself fly back. Or, if we are at his parent's, she makes us or his parent's drive the 8 hours there and 8 hours back to get them. Otherwise, we won't see them.
Just to tell you what kind of person she is...she doesn't have a highschool diploma, she has supposedly gone and graduated from beauty school to cut hair, but she doesn't do anything with it. She does not have a job and has not had one since 2008. She lives off my husband and her current husband, while we both have jobs and barely make it and recently had to file for bankruptcy. Not saying she is a bad mother, but we don't exactly see eye to eye on our child raising. The kids are aloud to talk back and roll their eyes, they are only fed ramen noodles and macaroni and cheese. They are told that their Dad moved away because he didn't want to be near them. The girls told us this past summer that they have a game where they are allowed to sit up front in the car, but if they see an police car, they have to duck, and she's married to a COP!
Since you cannot change the divorce papers but every 3 years, we have to endure this another year. Is there anything we can do until then? Do we have a leg to stand on? Is it just me or does she take advantage of the system? Also, since we have them for so long in the summer, should we have to pay her child support since we are supporting the children?
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