My wife and I have been seperated since July 2004. We have a 3 year old son, and in Virginia couples with minor children must be seperated for a year before divorce proceedings can start. I believe this is to allow for reconciliation time, which I would love to be able to work things out for our son's sake. However, I have heard that if adultry can be proven the divorce can be started right away. I had a sneaky suspision that she was cheating on me before we got seperated, I have since done some investigating and have some things that also show suspision but nothing concrete. The mediator that we saw to set up joint custody said that infedelity can still be proven during this seperation period. I know she has a boyfriend now and was wondering if evidence of this would be addmissible in court. I am trying to get full custody of my son also, because she is not providing a good home life for him especially when she's entertaining "guests". The divorce I can live with but the fear of my son's health and safety I cannot. PLEASE any help or advice would be gratefully appreciated. Thank You in advance.