Pro's of hyphenated name

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This is the same people in "changing childs last name" thread. Mom and Dad had child out of wedlock and mom gave child her last name. Child is 5 and will be in school this year. Mom and Dad have joint custody mom with physical.

Dad has suggested a hyphenated surname. Mom may object but is less likely to at the idea of hyphenation.

What would be some pro's in hyphenating the childs last name?
 
One pro is that the maternal name is often unrepresented in mainstream society, or used as a left-over name when there is no paternal name as a "discounting" of a child who may not have both parents. This child should have the advantage of both parents unless there is a stigma involved in the cultural or racial identity of the child. There is no real science on why the Paternal name is the dominant name other than customary practice according to pre-civil rights law.

The reasons why there is an argument over the child's name, based on gender privilege or power dynamic is a relevant discussion in my book, especially in situations where one parent is facilitating control mechanisms over the child.

I found it was necessary to change my name to the child's, to ensure that the child and I were given an opportunity to have less problems at school. Nowadays, having the same name as the child is a security measure. If I had a different name from the child, then I'd have to show an ID everytime I'm with my child which is not something I did, during childbirth.

I suggest a third mutually agreeable name, but then I'd probably get dismissed from lending advice in the forums. But I suggest another counter discussion for all those hypenator's out there. Is that the child, once adult then has to decide upon two names to dismiss or pass on. With an added third invisible. Shouldn't it be a 4 name hyphenation if everyone's names should be involved?
 
blairbushprojct said:
One pro is that the maternal name is often unrepresented in mainstream society, or used as a left-over name when there is no paternal name as a "discounting" of a child who may not have both parents. This child should have the advantage of both parents unless there is a stigma involved in the cultural or racial identity of the child. There is no real science on why the Paternal name is the dominant name other than customary practice according to pre-civil rights law.

The reasons why there is an argument over the child's name, based on gender privilege or power dynamic is a relevant discussion in my book, especially in situations where one parent is facilitating control mechanisms over the child.

I found it was necessary to change my name to the child's, to ensure that the child and I were given an opportunity to have less problems at school. Nowadays, having the same name as the child is a security measure. If I had a different name from the child, then I'd have to show an ID everytime I'm with my child which is not something I did, during childbirth.

I suggest a third mutually agreeable name, but then I'd probably get dismissed from lending advice in the forums. But I suggest another counter discussion for all those hypenator's out there. Is that the child, once adult then has to decide upon two names to dismiss or pass on. With an added third invisible. Shouldn't it be a 4 name hyphenation if everyone's names should be involved?
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