Trying to get out of support for a child that isn't mine

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UsedIllusion said:
Army Judge & Morgansdaddy: The real father knows he has a kid, but he is also a piece of shit, and doesn't care obviously :/

Antigone: Child in question: Not mine! As for me being at the bottom of the "shit barrel", say what you will. His mother could easily choose to do the right thing and let me move on in my life and stop lying to this kid, but she won't. I make more money, and she knows that, and it's the only reason she hasn't gone after the real father.

Proserpina: Again, this kid is not mine, and I'm not using him as a tool. I'm pretty sure by his mother using the support to punish me like she has been for the past 8 years, she's proven that she is the one using him as a tool. I just want this part of my life to be over so I can move on and raise my actual child without any reminders of a decision I made when I was 20 years old.
Even if I was using him as a tool, I don't care. HE'S NOT MINE His mother and her husband could do the right thing and stop torturing me with this support crap and adopt him (I offered to pay for it, and she refused). They could eliminate me from the picture all together if they would drop the support and raise him like a responsible adult family, then I wouldn't have the option to "use him as a tool"
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Wrong!!!! Legally speaking child is yours:yes:
 
Let's recap all the advice for OP...

You are the legal father of the child.

You cannot disclaim the child at this point.

If the biological father of the child decides to challenge paternity, you MAY be off the hook. (Actually, if the other guy knew a long time ago, then I think the time has passed for him to challenge paternity, too.)

If the step-father agrees to adopt the child, you will be absolved of your obligation.

If you file for visitation, the mother and her husband may rethink adoption.



Yep, that's about it.
 
MorgansDaddy said:
I understand the frustration, and even judgments deserved are still better kept to one's self.
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I don't understand what the problem is.

You've made three posts about judgments and judging. I assume you're referring to some of the responses to OP. I've read the entire thread and I can't find one instance of anyone judging the OP.

Am I misinterpreting?
 
Proserpina said:
Then what ARE you saying?

Do you seriously think a court would be more happy-touchy-feely than we've been here?

Really?
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let me say it differently then, maybe we could be a little more nice in giving advice than what is seen from time to time in different threads. And no, I don't think a court will be "more happy-touchy-feely" either. However, a judge's job is to do just that, judge. This forum is a place for advice not judgment though.
 
you broke the law

UsedIllusion said:
8 years ago I signed the papers for a child when I was 20 years old. I thought I was in love with his mother and it turns out, I was not. I knew that he wasn't mine when I signed the paternity papers. I have been trying to get out of paying for this child for at least 3 years now, and I keep getting mixed answers. 3 years ago I had a legitimate daughter whom I am having trouble supporting (I'm still with and plan on marrying her mother) due to paying for the previously mentioned child. Is there any way at all to get out of the original support order? I've already signed over my paternity rights. Please Help!
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and btw, you do realize you committed a crime dont you? putting false info on an offical documnet( the bc) is fraud. you knew you were not this child's father.
 
Antigone said:
You're still the daddy. You talk about the mom being <insert colorful metaphor here> when you are no better. YOU decided to be this child's daddy even though you know you weren't and now you want to dump said child??? I'd say you're the bottom of the <insert same colorful metaphor here> barrell.

And to make you even more scummy, you want to become underemployed so that both children have less. Ahhh you win the academy award for FOCUS
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This is one of the replies that certain parts should have just been left out. The first thing (and maybe judgmental was the wrong word for me to be using) which led me to say anything was when he was giving grief for having another child. Not the post that you mentioned the other child though Proserpina because you simply said the courts would see it that way. The other one before yours however just seemed to be giving him grief about it.
 
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