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I have full physical and joint legal custody of my 7 year old son in Anchorage, Alaska. When he was 3, his Dad moved to Seattle. Our son accompanied him on the initial trip down, spent two weeks and was flown home. In the four years since, his Dad has come to Anchorage twice for short trips, centered around legal issues separate from our Custody Agreement. They were able to see each other for some dinners and on one trip, a few overnights. All other communication (phone) has been sporadic, at best, sometimes going months without speaking. then months without contact again after that.
In the seven years that I have been single parenting, we have yet to travel out of state together. I'm saving to bring my son to meet my family, who live North of Seattle. I will have under 7 days to enjoy our first vacation together.
My Question: How much time am I obligated to give of our 7 days to his Dad? IT seems unfair that if we were going to Disneyland, we'd have a full week together, but if I take him to see family, which are within driving distance, I will be expected to leave him with his Dad for part of our vacation time. I think it would be heartless to neglect an opportunity for a visit of some kind, but how do I avoid losing precious vacation days after 7 years of none? It's going to be an issue, I assure you. My ex feels I should be financially facilitating regular visits anyway...something that is laughable as I cannot make ends meet as it is without my family's support.
Some insist I owe no time from our vacation, some say I would need to provide half. My ex thinks that I owe him all the Wednesday and weekend days he's missed by choosing to move out of state to him anyway, and keeps a running tally.
Advice?
(thank you in advance)
In the seven years that I have been single parenting, we have yet to travel out of state together. I'm saving to bring my son to meet my family, who live North of Seattle. I will have under 7 days to enjoy our first vacation together.
My Question: How much time am I obligated to give of our 7 days to his Dad? IT seems unfair that if we were going to Disneyland, we'd have a full week together, but if I take him to see family, which are within driving distance, I will be expected to leave him with his Dad for part of our vacation time. I think it would be heartless to neglect an opportunity for a visit of some kind, but how do I avoid losing precious vacation days after 7 years of none? It's going to be an issue, I assure you. My ex feels I should be financially facilitating regular visits anyway...something that is laughable as I cannot make ends meet as it is without my family's support.
Some insist I owe no time from our vacation, some say I would need to provide half. My ex thinks that I owe him all the Wednesday and weekend days he's missed by choosing to move out of state to him anyway, and keeps a running tally.
Advice?
(thank you in advance)