My eight year old daughter was born in Oregon and her father and I never married. Her father and I split up when my daughter was 4 months old and by the time my daughter was 3 we had recieved $20 in support. I never filed for custody in Oregon and likewise(obviously) never filed for support. When my daughter was 3 we moved to N.C. to be with a good friend of mine and start a business and a new life. 2 years later, said friend and I married and 1 1/2 years later had a son. My daughter, myself and my husband have lived in N.C. for five years now. My daughters father has never contested custody or helped out financially but has just recently(within the last two years) began showing interest in his daughter. My husband and I own a home, two newer vehichles and a small, and successful business. My daughter is now 8, has been in the same school for three years and doing very well at that. My husband has just notified me that he wants a divorce. He refuses to talk about the issues and also refuses to try counselling. I do not want a divorce, but understand that we live in a no-fault state and I have no say in the matter. What I am most concerned with, is the following. I have been a stay at home mother since the birth of our son almost two years ago. I began working two days a week to give my husband a break from the store a year ago, but everything(business, cars, house etc. are in his name) I don't even have a bank account. I want to know if my lack of legal custody of my daughter and the fact that I moved her 3000 miles away without court permission will severely hinder my request for custody of my son. I appologize for this being so long winded, but there are a lot of factors involved(like most legal cases). Thank you for reading this far and I appreciate any insight or advice in the matter.