Married with three kids under 10. Remodeled house over $400k (no equity due to market), Married little over 10 years. I am Fireman, she has a career in upper management. We both make around $60k each. She served me with papers wanting me to pay for everything, house, custody, kids, tuition, my pension, her as beneficiary on MY life insurance, she wants it all.
I am devastated to say the least.I had no clue to this. I just found out she's been messing around with an out of state manager from work."working" on a project and spending the late nights all night at a hotel near the office. We have not had "relations" since July. She was too busy at working with this guy on a project.
I totally trusted her and questioned her when she took the kids to dinner with him when I was at work. She said her boss paid for it and that she had to do it. All hell broke loose and she stopped talking to me and only communicates through texting.This was the first time she ever mentioned divorce--ever. She spends weekends away and I am not allowed to ask her where she goes. I cant believe this is happening to me.
The other day I got a doctor's bill with a $900 charge, I called and asked the procedure was for, it was for an abortion. I knew then she sleeping with this guy.
I got a lawyer but I am freaking out. I see him next week. Also, she took the kids on vacation and I think this guy is going to be there too.
These are my questions:
Can I get custody, even though I'm fireman? I have done most of the parenting, I am home mostly in the daytime.
I think she is hiding a mental illness, She is acting crazy now and has told me of suicide attempt before we got married. Can I find out about her mental state?
Can I find out who's baby that was?
She denies an affair, can this be formally asked?
Can I hold her boss responsible?
She wants me to agree to everything and to quickly sign all documents and to use the same attorney. If all is done like she wants I will have no cash left to even live. PLEASE ADVISE. Thank YOU.
I am devastated to say the least.I had no clue to this. I just found out she's been messing around with an out of state manager from work."working" on a project and spending the late nights all night at a hotel near the office. We have not had "relations" since July. She was too busy at working with this guy on a project.
I totally trusted her and questioned her when she took the kids to dinner with him when I was at work. She said her boss paid for it and that she had to do it. All hell broke loose and she stopped talking to me and only communicates through texting.This was the first time she ever mentioned divorce--ever. She spends weekends away and I am not allowed to ask her where she goes. I cant believe this is happening to me.
The other day I got a doctor's bill with a $900 charge, I called and asked the procedure was for, it was for an abortion. I knew then she sleeping with this guy.
I got a lawyer but I am freaking out. I see him next week. Also, she took the kids on vacation and I think this guy is going to be there too.
These are my questions:
Can I get custody, even though I'm fireman? I have done most of the parenting, I am home mostly in the daytime.
I think she is hiding a mental illness, She is acting crazy now and has told me of suicide attempt before we got married. Can I find out about her mental state?
Can I find out who's baby that was?
She denies an affair, can this be formally asked?
Can I hold her boss responsible?
She wants me to agree to everything and to quickly sign all documents and to use the same attorney. If all is done like she wants I will have no cash left to even live. PLEASE ADVISE. Thank YOU.