Okay, here's the deal. I own a home in Rural Small Town "A" which used to be a 75 minute commute (each way) from my job. Why do I live so far away? Well, I never really planned on that but unemployment was very high in my rural small town, the highest in my state in fact for a long time. Because of increased traffic etc. that 75 minute commute is now a 2 hour commute. That's 4 hours on the road every day to get to an 8 hour/day job. Although I actually did that for several years, it was not a lifestyle I could maintain. So I got a tiny room in a cheap motel in the town where I work. At first I just rented it one night at a time when I was too exhausted to do a 2-hour drive before I got home, and remember, that 2 hours assumes perfect road conditions. I live in a state that gets lots of snow and other bad weather, and there were times when that 2-hour drive actually took closer to 4 hours. After a while, instead of renting the room 1 night at a time I started renting it by the week, so I'd drive to it on Sunday night & stay there until Friday night when I'd drive back home. But my local Post Office, where I did have a PO Box was never open when I was in town. So my mail piled up & I didn't get it except when I took off either a Monday morning or a Friday afternoon from work so I could get to my PO Box before the PO closed. I eventually started renting my cheap motel room by the month instead of by the week. And then there was Covid. I have health conditions that make me high risk. So that got into the mix too. Except when I have to go to work, where they have mandatory Covid testing (must have a negative test result every 2 weeks) plus masks & social distancing, I almost never leave my little 12x12 room. Yes I'm afraid of getting Covid because if I did, because of pre-existing health conditions, it would probably kill me.
Why don't I move to the town where I work? Because it is too expensive. I own my home outright in town "A" but even if I sold it at full market value and used the entire amount for a new home in the town where I work it would barely be enough for a down payment, and then I'd still have higher mortgage payments than I could afford for years to come. Much higher than the monthly rent I pay in the cheap motel for my 12x12 room.
Why don''t I quit my job and get a different one? Well by now I'm vested in the pension plan at my current job and I don't want to lose that. Defined benefit pension plans aren't exactly common any more and I need something more than just Social Security and a brand new new 401(k) to live on when I retire. So I need to keep the pension plan.
Why don't I rent out my house? I've thought about it but I don't really want to be an absentee landlord and I don't want somebody else trashing my house. It is where I plan to live after I retire.
Why don't I get an apartment in the town where I work & just get my mail there? Again, housing costs - I can't afford that. I can afford a 12x12 room in a cheap motel which is what I have. It is the same motel where the city sometimes puts up homeless people. It's a dirt cheap motel and not exactly a great place to call my permanent address. In all honesty I don't want to give up my permanent home address where I've lived for more than 30 years as my home address, and i don't want to give the cheap motel out as my address.
There is a UPS store which is right off the highway, just a 1-block detour, on my way to my work. It is open from 6 a.m. until 8 p.m., which means I can get my mail there easily without taking off from work to do it.
I already haven't voted in the last several elections because I'm afraid if I go to town "A" where I'm registered to vote somebody will accuse me of election fraud and say I don't really live there any more. My state has gone crazy trying to root out election fraud and I just don't want to get caught up in a political fight about election fraud & wind up in jail or something. I would lose my job for that. I have to pass random background checks to keep my job and I don't want to jeopardize that.
I have often wondered how rich people with multiple homes manage to keep one of them as their permanent address and vote there and pay taxes there etc., even if they're physically in other places a lot of the time. But I'm not a rich person and I have no idea how they manage that.
At any rate I feel like some kind of an outlaw already. I'm really not a bad person or a criminal or trying to commit any kind of fraud. I just don't want to call the cheap motel with a 12x12 room my permanent address. I want my home in town "A" to be my permanent address even if I'm not there often these days. I intend to live there until I die, but for right now I just logistically can't.
Okay? I'm sure nobody wanted to know all that but I'm frustrated by all the responses that are acting like I'm some kind of an idiot or don't know what I'm talking about, or lying, or some other such thing.