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My question involves guardianship in the State of: Minnesota.
This is a very complex situation so bear with me..
Ive been seeing my girlfriend for awhile now. When we first met, she told me she had a learning disability, and that her mom has guardianship over her. I told her, that it would be best that she talks to her mom about me, before we got into anything, but because her mom has hurt her so many times verbally, with things that she has said...its made my girlfriend not want to talk to her mom about anything. So we compromised and we said that we would talk to her after her dad at least got to know me a little bit, figuring that he might be ok with us dating and might help convince her mom that im ok. We are a homosexual couple. Couple months went by, and we decided that we would like to see each other more. so, we told her mom. Her mom was ok with it. she was cool with it. at first. My girlfriend asked to see me....and her mom stated that they needed to clean the house first....ok reasonable. couple weeks later, my girlfriend asked her mom if i could see her yet. she said to wait until after my girlfriends birthday. Birthday came and went. Couple more weeks went by, she asked if she could see me again. This time her mom replied No. Her reasoning being that I have messed up my girlfriend. How? Because my gf and i talk too much.
This isn't the first time her mom has done this. Her mom refuses to let my girlfriend see any of her friends with the exception of one, and threatens to shut off her phone for talking to all the others as well as states that if she doesn't do what her mom says or throws any attempt to rebel, her mom says that she will put her in a group home. and my girlfriend has also stated multiple times that she wishes she had different guardian.
This woman hasn't even met me, and refuses to for reasons unknown to us. My girlfriend and her father know that I am not a threat of harm to her, therefor there shouldn't be any reason why I cannot see her, or talk to her. I am a law abiding citizen, who works 10 hours a day, doesn't care to party, doesn't drink nor smoke, or do drugs, I've got my own place, and I pay all my bills on time that comes home, cleans house, eats, showers, sleeps and plays the occasional videogame. I have done nothing wrong to this woman or to her daughter, so I don't understand where this automatic hostility is coming from.
Now as i understand it....under the Guardianship and Conservatorship in Minnesota law...
She has "the right to communication and visitation with persons of the ward or protected person's
choice, provided that if the guardian has found that certain communication or visitation may
result in harm to the ward's health, safety, or well-being, that communication or visitation may
be restricted but only to the extent necessary to prevent the harm;"
Given that, I would say her mom is breaking that law. If I am wrong. Then explain how I am wrong.
Given this whole thing, we have discussed our options, and have decided that any attempt I make to reason with her mom is out of the question, after my girlfriend stated that her mom said she will get a restraining order on me. My girlfriend also wishes that I be her guardian. So, we have discussed it. And would like to go that route, seeing as her mom is not only restricting her rights, but is also inducing psychological fear, in an attempt to control her daughter.
I am wondering how to get this whole process started, and what steps I take first, and how to find a lawyer for this specific area of law.
I am aware, that I will be responsible for her, and I also realize what even doing this will do to her family. And I accept those responsibilities/consequences, even if our relationship doesn't work out, I can't just sit here knowing that her rights are being violated, and the law broken and abused by her mom.
I would like serious answers only as this is a very serious situation.
This is a very complex situation so bear with me..
Ive been seeing my girlfriend for awhile now. When we first met, she told me she had a learning disability, and that her mom has guardianship over her. I told her, that it would be best that she talks to her mom about me, before we got into anything, but because her mom has hurt her so many times verbally, with things that she has said...its made my girlfriend not want to talk to her mom about anything. So we compromised and we said that we would talk to her after her dad at least got to know me a little bit, figuring that he might be ok with us dating and might help convince her mom that im ok. We are a homosexual couple. Couple months went by, and we decided that we would like to see each other more. so, we told her mom. Her mom was ok with it. she was cool with it. at first. My girlfriend asked to see me....and her mom stated that they needed to clean the house first....ok reasonable. couple weeks later, my girlfriend asked her mom if i could see her yet. she said to wait until after my girlfriends birthday. Birthday came and went. Couple more weeks went by, she asked if she could see me again. This time her mom replied No. Her reasoning being that I have messed up my girlfriend. How? Because my gf and i talk too much.
This isn't the first time her mom has done this. Her mom refuses to let my girlfriend see any of her friends with the exception of one, and threatens to shut off her phone for talking to all the others as well as states that if she doesn't do what her mom says or throws any attempt to rebel, her mom says that she will put her in a group home. and my girlfriend has also stated multiple times that she wishes she had different guardian.
This woman hasn't even met me, and refuses to for reasons unknown to us. My girlfriend and her father know that I am not a threat of harm to her, therefor there shouldn't be any reason why I cannot see her, or talk to her. I am a law abiding citizen, who works 10 hours a day, doesn't care to party, doesn't drink nor smoke, or do drugs, I've got my own place, and I pay all my bills on time that comes home, cleans house, eats, showers, sleeps and plays the occasional videogame. I have done nothing wrong to this woman or to her daughter, so I don't understand where this automatic hostility is coming from.
Now as i understand it....under the Guardianship and Conservatorship in Minnesota law...
She has "the right to communication and visitation with persons of the ward or protected person's
choice, provided that if the guardian has found that certain communication or visitation may
result in harm to the ward's health, safety, or well-being, that communication or visitation may
be restricted but only to the extent necessary to prevent the harm;"
Given that, I would say her mom is breaking that law. If I am wrong. Then explain how I am wrong.
Given this whole thing, we have discussed our options, and have decided that any attempt I make to reason with her mom is out of the question, after my girlfriend stated that her mom said she will get a restraining order on me. My girlfriend also wishes that I be her guardian. So, we have discussed it. And would like to go that route, seeing as her mom is not only restricting her rights, but is also inducing psychological fear, in an attempt to control her daughter.
I am wondering how to get this whole process started, and what steps I take first, and how to find a lawyer for this specific area of law.
I am aware, that I will be responsible for her, and I also realize what even doing this will do to her family. And I accept those responsibilities/consequences, even if our relationship doesn't work out, I can't just sit here knowing that her rights are being violated, and the law broken and abused by her mom.
I would like serious answers only as this is a very serious situation.