LongingForMySon
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Quick Back Story:
I did not miss a single doctors appointment, while the mother of my son was pregnant. I was annoyingly excited. I rented a townhouse down the street from the hospital. However, due to my sons grandmother (mothers side) and I having an argument regarding multiple issues (mainly her nose being in every aspect of our relationship/pregnancy), the grandmother forbid my sons mother from seeing me or allowing me to be part of my sons birth and life. Even after hiring an attorney to assist in the mother if my sons three DUI's. That was back in 2008.
I was never told of my sons birth, finding out via court documents. I begged and pleaded with my sons mother and family. I attended and successfully completed a parenting class, hoping that I would not only learn a few things but also showing my true desire to be apart of my sons life. To no avail.
After finding out my sons mother filled for custody and child support, I hired an attorney. My attorney advised me to completely cut-off all forms of contact. I did so. Advised to take a paternity test, I did and am the father. Spending thousands of dollars on attorney's fees ect and the result was horrible. I pay child support every month (have and continue to do so, with no late payments or arrears), was not awarded joint physical/legal custody, at that time was awarded no visitation. How this result was even in the realm of possibility... I will never begin to fathom. Needless to say, I fired the attorney/firm and will forever regret the decision to go that route.
Currently:
I have since then, moved from CA to CO for job opportunities. I have an amazing family now. Proud father of a girl and boy. I live and manage a large working cattle ranch. As well as, working a 40+ hour a week full time job. Slowly but, very close to becoming debt free (in less than 12 months).
As amazing as my current situation is, I have a hole in my heart that burns larger as each day passes. I have reached the point in which, I can stay quiet. Nor allowing this extremely painful and disheartening injustice to continue.
My Question:
I am seeking any advise on how I would go upon filling for visitation? Or what might be the next advisable action. I am unsure where else to turn. My expensive attorney did nothing but hinder my need to be apart of my sons life.
I am absolutely willing to fly from CO to CA for a weekend a month. I assume I would. be able to file for visitation of 4 or more hours each visit (just to start out). After doing so for 6 - 12 months, maybe my mother would be able to fly with my son to CO from CA for weekend visitation.
I have never been able to see or hold my son! Regardless, the fleeting notion that i may be able to see and hold him in the near future... Makes all this pain and suffering worth it all.
My apologies for the rambled ending. I appreciate any thoughts and/or advise on the next possible steps, ect.
Than You,
Longing For my Son
I did not miss a single doctors appointment, while the mother of my son was pregnant. I was annoyingly excited. I rented a townhouse down the street from the hospital. However, due to my sons grandmother (mothers side) and I having an argument regarding multiple issues (mainly her nose being in every aspect of our relationship/pregnancy), the grandmother forbid my sons mother from seeing me or allowing me to be part of my sons birth and life. Even after hiring an attorney to assist in the mother if my sons three DUI's. That was back in 2008.
I was never told of my sons birth, finding out via court documents. I begged and pleaded with my sons mother and family. I attended and successfully completed a parenting class, hoping that I would not only learn a few things but also showing my true desire to be apart of my sons life. To no avail.
After finding out my sons mother filled for custody and child support, I hired an attorney. My attorney advised me to completely cut-off all forms of contact. I did so. Advised to take a paternity test, I did and am the father. Spending thousands of dollars on attorney's fees ect and the result was horrible. I pay child support every month (have and continue to do so, with no late payments or arrears), was not awarded joint physical/legal custody, at that time was awarded no visitation. How this result was even in the realm of possibility... I will never begin to fathom. Needless to say, I fired the attorney/firm and will forever regret the decision to go that route.
Currently:
I have since then, moved from CA to CO for job opportunities. I have an amazing family now. Proud father of a girl and boy. I live and manage a large working cattle ranch. As well as, working a 40+ hour a week full time job. Slowly but, very close to becoming debt free (in less than 12 months).
As amazing as my current situation is, I have a hole in my heart that burns larger as each day passes. I have reached the point in which, I can stay quiet. Nor allowing this extremely painful and disheartening injustice to continue.
My Question:
I am seeking any advise on how I would go upon filling for visitation? Or what might be the next advisable action. I am unsure where else to turn. My expensive attorney did nothing but hinder my need to be apart of my sons life.
I am absolutely willing to fly from CO to CA for a weekend a month. I assume I would. be able to file for visitation of 4 or more hours each visit (just to start out). After doing so for 6 - 12 months, maybe my mother would be able to fly with my son to CO from CA for weekend visitation.
I have never been able to see or hold my son! Regardless, the fleeting notion that i may be able to see and hold him in the near future... Makes all this pain and suffering worth it all.
My apologies for the rambled ending. I appreciate any thoughts and/or advise on the next possible steps, ect.
Than You,
Longing For my Son