My husband & I married in MI., in '08. After the death of my mother, we moved to IN., where he used to live. He told me if I didn't like it here, we would make plans to move somewhere else. After giving it a year and a half, I told him I didn't like it here, & he told me to pack my sh@* & go back to MI.
When we moved from MI., I also left a good paying job, sold MY mobile home & we used the money from that to move to IN., plus put down deposit on apartment, & food etc., until he found employment. He got a job right away, but got fired because he told the boss that he would punch her son in the face if he were there at the time, because he didn't do what he was instructed to do & messed things up. So for a few more months he went unemployed & then got a job at the end of the year, & has no been there 18 mos. He did get a letter from a customer complaining he was very rude & she felt unsafe around him, so she had called her husband to come home. I didn't really become aware until we moved here, & I have been reading, that he is considered psychologically abusive. He has called me names, criticized my grown children, my family members, & has thrown things in tantrum/temper. I always thought bad temper, but the other day he got irritated that I asked him a simple question & he threw the t.v. remote after me (missing me) but when I returned it to him & told him that it was immature & uncalled for, he threw it again after me (missing me again) but took a chunk out of the wall. This is not his first little fit, but it was the most violent. He slammed our door 3x so hard, he broke it. Anyway....we live in an apartment, have no marital assets, no debt, our vehicles are our own & are paid for....we have nothing to fight over...not even kids. I had to quit my full time job here, & go part time so I could attend school to further my education & career. I had to pay for it with MY income tax money & wait for work to reimburse me when I finish in June. Now, I have no full time job or way of taking care of myself until I am finished with school & get a full time job. The other issue is I want to move back to MI., to be near my family & friends & where I have already been offered employment opportunity when I finish school. I have NO money, NO savings, VERY little 401 saved up & he says he is not paying me back any money towards the sale of my home that moved us here etc., however he does have a 401 plan, as well as inheritance waiting for him when his mother passes away some day. He also told me that she isn't giving me any of my money back either. All he has offered at this point is to keep supporting the home, etc., until I am out of school. I want to know on what grounds I can sue him for, etc. I have NO money for an attorney, but plan on doing it myself, but need to know what laws & rights I have to make my divorce fair to ME.
Thank You!
When we moved from MI., I also left a good paying job, sold MY mobile home & we used the money from that to move to IN., plus put down deposit on apartment, & food etc., until he found employment. He got a job right away, but got fired because he told the boss that he would punch her son in the face if he were there at the time, because he didn't do what he was instructed to do & messed things up. So for a few more months he went unemployed & then got a job at the end of the year, & has no been there 18 mos. He did get a letter from a customer complaining he was very rude & she felt unsafe around him, so she had called her husband to come home. I didn't really become aware until we moved here, & I have been reading, that he is considered psychologically abusive. He has called me names, criticized my grown children, my family members, & has thrown things in tantrum/temper. I always thought bad temper, but the other day he got irritated that I asked him a simple question & he threw the t.v. remote after me (missing me) but when I returned it to him & told him that it was immature & uncalled for, he threw it again after me (missing me again) but took a chunk out of the wall. This is not his first little fit, but it was the most violent. He slammed our door 3x so hard, he broke it. Anyway....we live in an apartment, have no marital assets, no debt, our vehicles are our own & are paid for....we have nothing to fight over...not even kids. I had to quit my full time job here, & go part time so I could attend school to further my education & career. I had to pay for it with MY income tax money & wait for work to reimburse me when I finish in June. Now, I have no full time job or way of taking care of myself until I am finished with school & get a full time job. The other issue is I want to move back to MI., to be near my family & friends & where I have already been offered employment opportunity when I finish school. I have NO money, NO savings, VERY little 401 saved up & he says he is not paying me back any money towards the sale of my home that moved us here etc., however he does have a 401 plan, as well as inheritance waiting for him when his mother passes away some day. He also told me that she isn't giving me any of my money back either. All he has offered at this point is to keep supporting the home, etc., until I am out of school. I want to know on what grounds I can sue him for, etc. I have NO money for an attorney, but plan on doing it myself, but need to know what laws & rights I have to make my divorce fair to ME.
Thank You!
