Terminated for the wrong reasons!!

[ckuecken]

My best Friend today had his rights terminated from his 2.5 year old son for his past...

Back in August the mother stopped my friend from seeing his son (she got a new boyfriend). My friend tried to call everyday to try and talk about things so he could see his son and it did not work. She got a new and he had no number. He then went to friend of court to try and get rights bit because he was not on the birth certificate they would not help him. He found a lawyer and had to save some money to proceed with the case. which he was doing. in the mean time the mothers new boyfriend abused his son (head trauma) and his son was takin my cps and out in foster care. (he was not on birth certificate) the mother finally signed the Affidavid to give him rights. He then was allowed to see his son at the DHS for 2 hours a week while the case was under investigation. cps did not want to put the boy with my friend due to his record. My friend has a very long record, he has jad alcohol problem for a very long time. But has been solber for 6 months now and does not ever plan to return. he has 2 domestics one envolving the mom. She has the same charge they hit each other. The other one was from when he was younger. then he has some drunk drivings, entering home of unknown person and some other charges from drinking. He has not had a conviction since 2008. My friend has never ever drank in front of his children or got in any trouble with his children.

Any way today at court the mother who also has domestic charges and suicide attemps amoung other things was not terminated. The child and her new baby are in jurisdiction of the court temporarily, but she was not terminated.

the judge terminated my friend because of his past and to top it off while he was going threw the law and terminating his rights the judge never said my friends name right. He kept calling him mr. ross and mr. polley and his last name is jess. I just dont understand he is a very caring, loving, hands on father. He support all his children(4) and does and give them anything they need or want. My daugter is not even his and he treats her like his own(her father moved away) takes her to the daddy daughter dances and talks to her watches her and plays with her all the time. Were not even together were only friends. He is a all together great dad and should not of lost his rights.

What can he do? Can he ever get his rights back?

 

[Proserpina]

Very simply, your "friend" needs an attorney.

Tomorrow morning.

If he has any chance at overturning the decision.

Though I feel there is a LOT more to this story....

 

[ckuecken]

Thank u, we are first thing in the morning. by the time we left court nothing was open.

 

[ckuecken]

There really is not much more. he does has a long record and thats what the judge placed his decsion on. Its odd, I have never heard of this happening and my mouth dropped when I heard him say that he was terminated. if you have any question just ask. k

 

[Duranie]

This is a tough situation because the child has already been abused by moms idiot boyfriend (by the way is he being charged at all?). Mom should NOT get this child back. I hope the child is adopted out. Is moms new baby by idiot boyfriend?

This child has been through alot and your friend has a long criminal record and cannot prove he can adequately take care of a child that has already been abused and will likely be special needs. I am not sure I agree with terminating rights but he is not fit to have the child in his care right now. Normally a case plan would be given to Dad and he would have supervised visits witt the child in the current placement.

I am really tired of hearing about boyfriends beating their girlfriends kids. In these cases mom should be charged. Mom sounds like she is also mentally ill and totally unable to take care of either child. Where is the baby now? Also in foster care?

Good luck to both the kids. Your friend needs to take all his paperwork to an attorney. He needs to get a job if he doesnt have one, voluntarily sign up for parenting classes, take AA classes if he is not already, and prove to the courts that he is trying to be a better person and that he is interested in caring and parenting his child. Most of all he needs to stay out of trouble. His last conviction is only 2 years ago so he has ALOT to prove to the courts.

 

[ckuecken]

Duranie,
Yes the baby is also in foster care with my friends son. The boyfriend is being charged but has not been yet. Mom is a little mental and has issues and that why the court has jurisdiction for the year. But she can still see them 2 hours a week. My friend brought his AA papers and some counsling papers to court. He went to file the appeal today, but nothing can be summitted at the appeal they said. He is still going to fight and fight. He was seeing him with supervision since March but now he cant even call to check on him. Most important poor little boy, His dad was taken away from him then aloud back and taken away again. This boy is extremily smart and is recovering just amazing. He has slight disability now, more like AdHD and has left eye problem and can not move his hand very well. With all the fast recovering he has done they think he may build those abilities back. Thank god. My friend works, a lot actually. been employees at the same place for 6 years. We even discosed getting a house together so I could help with his son, seems how that is what I do for a living. That is never gonna happen now.

This is a tough situation because the child has already been abused by moms idiot boyfriend (by the way is he being charged at all?). Mom should NOT get this child back. I hope the child is adopted out. Is moms new baby by idiot boyfriend?

This child has been through alot and your friend has a long criminal record and cannot prove he can adequately take care of a child that has already been abused and will likely be special needs. I am not sure I agree with terminating rights but he is not fit to have the child in his care right now. Normally a case plan would be given to Dad and he would have supervised visits witt the child in the current placement.

I am really tired of hearing about boyfriends beating their girlfriends kids. In these cases mom should be charged. Mom sounds like she is also mentally ill and totally unable to take care of either child. Where is the baby now? Also in foster care?

Good luck to both the kids. Your friend needs to take all his paperwork to an attorney. He needs to get a job if he doesnt have one, voluntarily sign up for parenting classes, take AA classes if he is not already, and prove to the courts that he is trying to be a better person and that he is interested in caring and parenting his child. Most of all he needs to stay out of trouble. His last conviction is only 2 years ago so he has ALOT to prove to the courts.

 

[Duranie]

Well good luck to him. He cannot change the past but he needs to change his ways and his life for any chance of getting his child back or getting visits. He has alot to prove here. The parenting classes may help him as well and if he takes them voluntarily, that can only look good.