Let me start off by saying that I know I have no legal say so in anything because its the issue is between them, but I'm really worried about the situation and I want to help my friend out as much as I can (which feels like I cant help him with much). So Im just seeking advice from you all hoping that I could possibly show him just to give him a bunch of viewpoints on what all he's in for.
My friend has 2 kids by his ex. She keeps the kids (they dont have any paperwork on custody). He pays child support on only one child (she got mad at him and put him on child support). He picks them up on his off days to spend time with his kids, he transports the kids between daycare/school/her house/babysitters, he pays the babysitters/daycare when she asks him to even when its extremely short notice, when she calls at the last minute needing someone to watch the kids he'll pick them up or take them to a family members' house to watch them if he has to work, long story short, he's not a dead beat dad. He does what he can for his kids. He's the type of parent who will starve just to let his kids be able to eat (in other words his kids come first) Anyone who knows him knows that he does whatever he can to make sure his kids are good.
Problem is anytime she calls herself mad at him for any reason (childish things like, him not being able to pick up the phone the first time she calls), she threatens him with putting him on child support for their other kid, getting him locked up, making it to where he cant see his children, or any other evil thing she can think of because she knows the only way to get to him is through his kids. Recently, she needed him to pickt he kids up from daycare/school because she "had to go to class." He dropped their youngest off at a relative's, who has a newborn, and I watched their youngest, who has a stomach virus, because he didnt have anyone else who could watch her while he was at work. Because she knew that his friend(me) watch the baby, she told him he'd have him locked up for kidnapping his own kids because she didnt specifically know where the kid was.
I understand that fathers out of wedlock have no rights, but what does he need to do or know just in case he needs to go to court to be able to get some type of joint visitation or whatever he can get to maintain being able to help raise his kids? We both believe that she's going to do something evil like put him on child support for both kids and try to make it to where he cannot see them at the same time. Which is down right wrong when here she has a man who wants to take care of his kids. He has kept text messages of their conversations and he has lots of friends and family and im sure that even her own family would come to his defense if he needed (but he doesnt want them to get involved because that would cause problems within her family), but is that enough?
My friend has 2 kids by his ex. She keeps the kids (they dont have any paperwork on custody). He pays child support on only one child (she got mad at him and put him on child support). He picks them up on his off days to spend time with his kids, he transports the kids between daycare/school/her house/babysitters, he pays the babysitters/daycare when she asks him to even when its extremely short notice, when she calls at the last minute needing someone to watch the kids he'll pick them up or take them to a family members' house to watch them if he has to work, long story short, he's not a dead beat dad. He does what he can for his kids. He's the type of parent who will starve just to let his kids be able to eat (in other words his kids come first) Anyone who knows him knows that he does whatever he can to make sure his kids are good.
Problem is anytime she calls herself mad at him for any reason (childish things like, him not being able to pick up the phone the first time she calls), she threatens him with putting him on child support for their other kid, getting him locked up, making it to where he cant see his children, or any other evil thing she can think of because she knows the only way to get to him is through his kids. Recently, she needed him to pickt he kids up from daycare/school because she "had to go to class." He dropped their youngest off at a relative's, who has a newborn, and I watched their youngest, who has a stomach virus, because he didnt have anyone else who could watch her while he was at work. Because she knew that his friend(me) watch the baby, she told him he'd have him locked up for kidnapping his own kids because she didnt specifically know where the kid was.
I understand that fathers out of wedlock have no rights, but what does he need to do or know just in case he needs to go to court to be able to get some type of joint visitation or whatever he can get to maintain being able to help raise his kids? We both believe that she's going to do something evil like put him on child support for both kids and try to make it to where he cannot see them at the same time. Which is down right wrong when here she has a man who wants to take care of his kids. He has kept text messages of their conversations and he has lots of friends and family and im sure that even her own family would come to his defense if he needed (but he doesnt want them to get involved because that would cause problems within her family), but is that enough?
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