mom_indistress3
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i am such a bind. When this incident occured, we were not married yet. We were married about a month after this. He tricked me in to signing over my rights for my three year old daughter. I signed these papers he brought home that he begged me to do, saying it was for the milatary so he woudnt have to go to Iraq. I thought everything was ok: the papers stated that we all lived together and that he was the sole provider. I thought I was helping to prevent him from deploying but in actuality I signed over custody of my daughter to him. Then the papers stated I dont have to pay child support at this time. That was in late 2005.
We married in January of 2006. He states that in July of 2006 he filed for an annulment in Oklahoma. I knew nothing of the annulment papers, was never notified or contacted regarding them. We went ot marriage counseling in August of that year. I contacted the courthouse where the annulment papers were filed and it says that it was finalized in Julyof 2006 i didnt find out until December of 2006 that he did this i was still getting benifts from the military i went to get help from them again because he was being abusive again thats when i found out about the annulment he said we were divorced he kicked me out of the house and i had no were to go me and my oldest daughter had to stay with friends until i got my own place again I got my own place again in 2mo.time then he tried to sart over and i got pregant with now my 3mo old imoved to Ga to get away from all themess i now have been staying with mother to get on my feet.
I was also at this time listed as his wife on all military documents and as such had been receiving medical and everything from the military.
Fast forward to present, we know have a 3 month old daughter as well. He just got back from being stationed in Korea and he had bought airline tickets for a trip to his mothers in Oklahoma. There was no ticket for me, just him and our two girls. I refused to let my children fly with him by his self without me so he had to buy me a ticket and I went too. We were there for a little over a week and I thought everything was fine. When I flew with my youngest daughter to Dallas to make our connection on the way home, I found out he was not bringing our older daughter home with him. I pleaded for him to just bring her home, he flat out refused. His excuse was that he was deploying and she would be better off staying with his mom. Until he retuned in six months i cant be with out any of my children what can i do what rights as a mother do i have. All i do is work i dont do drugs i dont leave my children with anybody unless i am working!
I have a daughter from a previous relationship and the two with him. I have been working full time and supporting all three of my kids while he was out of the country. I have documentation that she has been in my custody and attending school and that I provide all care. All three of my children have been living with me the entire time until this visit to his family and he basically stole my daughter. His family and he say I should be grateful that they are taking my middle child away to care for her "to relieve my stress and workload".
I think my main questions and concerns are these : what do I do? Because he used trickery and deceit to get my signature on the papers for custody, what can I do to get my child back? Would I be able to go get her and not be charged with kidnapping? Secondly, I didn't sign any paperwork regarding an annulment, I know they are hard to get, must have extenuating circumstances in order to even recieve one. How do I find out if my marriage is actually legally annulled and under what circumstances?
I think he has defrauded multiple government agencies but no one will listen to me.
I would be grateful for any input that you might be able to provide.
We married in January of 2006. He states that in July of 2006 he filed for an annulment in Oklahoma. I knew nothing of the annulment papers, was never notified or contacted regarding them. We went ot marriage counseling in August of that year. I contacted the courthouse where the annulment papers were filed and it says that it was finalized in Julyof 2006 i didnt find out until December of 2006 that he did this i was still getting benifts from the military i went to get help from them again because he was being abusive again thats when i found out about the annulment he said we were divorced he kicked me out of the house and i had no were to go me and my oldest daughter had to stay with friends until i got my own place again I got my own place again in 2mo.time then he tried to sart over and i got pregant with now my 3mo old imoved to Ga to get away from all themess i now have been staying with mother to get on my feet.
I was also at this time listed as his wife on all military documents and as such had been receiving medical and everything from the military.
Fast forward to present, we know have a 3 month old daughter as well. He just got back from being stationed in Korea and he had bought airline tickets for a trip to his mothers in Oklahoma. There was no ticket for me, just him and our two girls. I refused to let my children fly with him by his self without me so he had to buy me a ticket and I went too. We were there for a little over a week and I thought everything was fine. When I flew with my youngest daughter to Dallas to make our connection on the way home, I found out he was not bringing our older daughter home with him. I pleaded for him to just bring her home, he flat out refused. His excuse was that he was deploying and she would be better off staying with his mom. Until he retuned in six months i cant be with out any of my children what can i do what rights as a mother do i have. All i do is work i dont do drugs i dont leave my children with anybody unless i am working!
I have a daughter from a previous relationship and the two with him. I have been working full time and supporting all three of my kids while he was out of the country. I have documentation that she has been in my custody and attending school and that I provide all care. All three of my children have been living with me the entire time until this visit to his family and he basically stole my daughter. His family and he say I should be grateful that they are taking my middle child away to care for her "to relieve my stress and workload".
I think my main questions and concerns are these : what do I do? Because he used trickery and deceit to get my signature on the papers for custody, what can I do to get my child back? Would I be able to go get her and not be charged with kidnapping? Secondly, I didn't sign any paperwork regarding an annulment, I know they are hard to get, must have extenuating circumstances in order to even recieve one. How do I find out if my marriage is actually legally annulled and under what circumstances?
I think he has defrauded multiple government agencies but no one will listen to me.
I would be grateful for any input that you might be able to provide.
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