So I have my court date on Thursday morning, and I was curious if I could get some input on my case and any opinions / comments / suggestions regarding it.
This is a remarkably reduced story as I don't want to bore too many of us with details.
I trained a new employee at the restaurant I worked at and ended up dating her for a period of about 12 months. Things were great for the first 8-10 months or so we jumped the gun and moved into an apartment together. I trusted her with everything and I adored her beyond anything other. We were what much would consider the perfect match. But enough with the sappiness. The clear and cut of it is that she cheated in the last 3-4 months of our relationship and moved out on me in the middle of our lease due to her loss of her job and wanting to move home to be with her son back in her home town (which was untrue, she just wanted to be with her new boyfriend).
She lost her job in April, our lease ended in mid-July. I did not see a penny from her from the beginning of March as she said that she needed money for her son and otherwise. I adored her son, so I sat by and understood as I saw all the bills racking up against me and I having to pick up extra shifts to accommodate. When she lost her job, she moved out of our apartment permanently, but we were still together.
In the meanwhile, she racked up my credit card with promise of return payment and asked for multiple miniature loans (~$200-$400) over the course of the next few months until I ultimately found out that she was lying to me the entire time.
We made an agreement early on and continually agreed even while she was out of work and still looking for work that she would pay me back the money owed, the money used on my credit card (she was an authorized user), and 50% of the debt that we put on my credit cards. I have bills proving her as authorized user using approximately $700 in her hometown and county away from San Jose, CA. The rest of the debt on the other major credit cards were items purchased for the both of us and our apartment.
I am suing her for 1/2 of the rent for the remaining lease, 1/2 of remaining credit card bills, and the full amount for the authorized purchases she made on my initial credit card (not including debt that I had owed previous to our relationship), utilities, cable, internet, her cell phones, and some other miscellaneous items purchased for her under my name which she promised to repay. The amount demanded totals out to $7490.
A majority of my claim is verbal, the only hard item that I can necessitate repayment is for the least on our apartment. But the fact that she lost both of her jobs in the same week forces the fact that I did not receive any money from her from that time on to pay any of our bills or debt. Does this help my case? And do I have a case at all if the majority of it is verbal?
On a personal note, I am a struggling college student and moved out about two years ago, who just fell in love with the wrong person. However, when you're in love with someone, it seems that you fail to see certain things. When she lies, you end up likely to believe what she says, rather than the facts in front of you, simply because it just makes everything so much easier if you could believe that what she says is true and that she is not a bad person, and you are worth it. Sick world it seems. The debt is what is holding me back from school as I must continue to work in order to keep my current living situation (renting out a room) and pay off my extraordinary debt.
But either way, I know she has a tendency to flake (reason why she was fired). If she doesn't show up, do I still need to prove my case to the judge? And if I'm awarded a default win, will it be for the full amount including the sections that were written up due to verbal agreement? Or will it just be for the amount that I only have hard copies for?
I also believe that she has a '57 Chevy in her name fully restored. This is due to a family member of hers that told me so. Is there a way I can check this? Is it a DMV public record? The only information I have on her is her SS Number, Address, Name, and DOB. I don't have any information about the vehicle.
Thanks for your time.
This is a remarkably reduced story as I don't want to bore too many of us with details.
I trained a new employee at the restaurant I worked at and ended up dating her for a period of about 12 months. Things were great for the first 8-10 months or so we jumped the gun and moved into an apartment together. I trusted her with everything and I adored her beyond anything other. We were what much would consider the perfect match. But enough with the sappiness. The clear and cut of it is that she cheated in the last 3-4 months of our relationship and moved out on me in the middle of our lease due to her loss of her job and wanting to move home to be with her son back in her home town (which was untrue, she just wanted to be with her new boyfriend).
She lost her job in April, our lease ended in mid-July. I did not see a penny from her from the beginning of March as she said that she needed money for her son and otherwise. I adored her son, so I sat by and understood as I saw all the bills racking up against me and I having to pick up extra shifts to accommodate. When she lost her job, she moved out of our apartment permanently, but we were still together.
In the meanwhile, she racked up my credit card with promise of return payment and asked for multiple miniature loans (~$200-$400) over the course of the next few months until I ultimately found out that she was lying to me the entire time.
We made an agreement early on and continually agreed even while she was out of work and still looking for work that she would pay me back the money owed, the money used on my credit card (she was an authorized user), and 50% of the debt that we put on my credit cards. I have bills proving her as authorized user using approximately $700 in her hometown and county away from San Jose, CA. The rest of the debt on the other major credit cards were items purchased for the both of us and our apartment.
I am suing her for 1/2 of the rent for the remaining lease, 1/2 of remaining credit card bills, and the full amount for the authorized purchases she made on my initial credit card (not including debt that I had owed previous to our relationship), utilities, cable, internet, her cell phones, and some other miscellaneous items purchased for her under my name which she promised to repay. The amount demanded totals out to $7490.
A majority of my claim is verbal, the only hard item that I can necessitate repayment is for the least on our apartment. But the fact that she lost both of her jobs in the same week forces the fact that I did not receive any money from her from that time on to pay any of our bills or debt. Does this help my case? And do I have a case at all if the majority of it is verbal?
On a personal note, I am a struggling college student and moved out about two years ago, who just fell in love with the wrong person. However, when you're in love with someone, it seems that you fail to see certain things. When she lies, you end up likely to believe what she says, rather than the facts in front of you, simply because it just makes everything so much easier if you could believe that what she says is true and that she is not a bad person, and you are worth it. Sick world it seems. The debt is what is holding me back from school as I must continue to work in order to keep my current living situation (renting out a room) and pay off my extraordinary debt.
But either way, I know she has a tendency to flake (reason why she was fired). If she doesn't show up, do I still need to prove my case to the judge? And if I'm awarded a default win, will it be for the full amount including the sections that were written up due to verbal agreement? Or will it just be for the amount that I only have hard copies for?
I also believe that she has a '57 Chevy in her name fully restored. This is due to a family member of hers that told me so. Is there a way I can check this? Is it a DMV public record? The only information I have on her is her SS Number, Address, Name, and DOB. I don't have any information about the vehicle.
Thanks for your time.
