I am a married mother and adult female who is diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. I have found that because of my neurological condition, it is easy for me to be taken advantage of. I take things and people at face value and quite litteraly. An example is when I kept a book-keeper on the payroll who took advantage and messed up my books for a year before I caught on. I had a horrible situation that I know that I played a part in, however, I feel that I fell prey to this man after months of his chasing. When I finally gave in and then tried to stop the relationship, he kept stalking me emotionally and physically.
He has admitted to being "sick" and a sex addict. Luckily I was seeing a counselor during these horrible four months, and I even went to a clinic that specializes in abusive relationships, codependancy, and relationship addictions. While I was at this clinic, even after cutting off all physical contact for a month, he still sent me emails and pictures of himself that were in company ads. I was emotionally wrecked and seemed to worry more about what would happen to him if I turned him into the company, then about myself. I was sure that I could handle it.
Finally, I gave my counselor permission to contact authorities in his church (he is LDS) and they put a quick stop to it. My husband asked him to resign from his position as property director from where our business is because he is an admitted sex addict. We don't have any business authority over him, but he manages the hotels and our business is in the hotel he manages. He has direct and indirect authority over the success of our business (I believe). In addition to his x rated e-mails that he sent during work hours, he also sent me emails detailing what he did behind his desk in view of guests. He went to his employers first, and when I got to them, he spun it to a simple affair between two consenting adults.
I don't feel this way. I know I made a mistake but I feel like I was literally hooked on him after the first time it happened. I made numerous attempts to stop after that. The employer said that they had no sex in the workplace policy, yet I don't feel that their property director on their company time, computers, and using their rooms to seduce and have sex in is in any way not against their policy. They just said that for the healing of both sides, keep it quiet. They never asked for my side of the story and he even told them that he left his last job for similar problems. There were rumors that this happened to another woman here before me. The day she left he latched onto me.
I don't know why I did it, but looking back it was pure manipulation on his part. I feel like I just want his employers to know the truth of what happened. I either want him gone, or for them to let me out of my lease and possibly buy my business fixtures so I can start new somewhere else where I don't need to see him pass by. I'm sure they have no liability, but what would you do? Please remember that I know that I made this mistake on my own, but that I really do have a neurological disorder that makes it hard for me to reason and understand social games, work environments, and manipulation. My psychologist labeled me a "vulnerable adult".
He has admitted to being "sick" and a sex addict. Luckily I was seeing a counselor during these horrible four months, and I even went to a clinic that specializes in abusive relationships, codependancy, and relationship addictions. While I was at this clinic, even after cutting off all physical contact for a month, he still sent me emails and pictures of himself that were in company ads. I was emotionally wrecked and seemed to worry more about what would happen to him if I turned him into the company, then about myself. I was sure that I could handle it.
Finally, I gave my counselor permission to contact authorities in his church (he is LDS) and they put a quick stop to it. My husband asked him to resign from his position as property director from where our business is because he is an admitted sex addict. We don't have any business authority over him, but he manages the hotels and our business is in the hotel he manages. He has direct and indirect authority over the success of our business (I believe). In addition to his x rated e-mails that he sent during work hours, he also sent me emails detailing what he did behind his desk in view of guests. He went to his employers first, and when I got to them, he spun it to a simple affair between two consenting adults.
I don't feel this way. I know I made a mistake but I feel like I was literally hooked on him after the first time it happened. I made numerous attempts to stop after that. The employer said that they had no sex in the workplace policy, yet I don't feel that their property director on their company time, computers, and using their rooms to seduce and have sex in is in any way not against their policy. They just said that for the healing of both sides, keep it quiet. They never asked for my side of the story and he even told them that he left his last job for similar problems. There were rumors that this happened to another woman here before me. The day she left he latched onto me.
I don't know why I did it, but looking back it was pure manipulation on his part. I feel like I just want his employers to know the truth of what happened. I either want him gone, or for them to let me out of my lease and possibly buy my business fixtures so I can start new somewhere else where I don't need to see him pass by. I'm sure they have no liability, but what would you do? Please remember that I know that I made this mistake on my own, but that I really do have a neurological disorder that makes it hard for me to reason and understand social games, work environments, and manipulation. My psychologist labeled me a "vulnerable adult".
