Seeking advice

[PapayaTea]

I have a three-year-old son. His father and I split up back when my son was 18 months old. In that time, my ex has seen his son maybe a dozen times even though we live in the same town (just on different ends). He claims I never let him see our son as his excuse for not visiting. I do allow him to see our son but it has to be in my house since custody is not established (trying but he is being stubborn and won't sign the papers) and I know enough about the law to know that since there is no custody if he does take off with our son on a visit he does not have to return him.

Anyways, my question is...I strongly dislike his current girlfriend for many reasons. She has had her children taken off of her by CYS (they have been returned but three times is alittle much in my opinion), she constantly yells at my son's half sister(my ex has a daughter from a pervious relationship) but basically because the little girl is not the gilfriend's biological child she is treated like the "red headed step-child" so I don't feel that she would be good to my son, and her mother and stepfather were convicted of abusing their own children some years ago and she has contact with them and takes her own children there. If and when custody is established can I legally limit her "exposure" to my son?

 

[seniorjudge]

Q: If and when custody is established can I legally limit her "exposure" to my son?

A: No.

 

[Duranie]

Unless she is abusing your daughter, there is nothing you can do. Your ex is free to date who he wants. How would you know exactly how she treats your daughter?

Unless she does something to your daughter there is little you can do.

 

[PapayaTea]

All the "evidence" I have on how she has treated my son's half-sister is from what she told me herself (this was when I was allowed access to her on the weekends for her and my son to visit but that stopped back in Feb). She told me of getting in trouble for little things like running or raising her voice, were she is forced to go to her bedroom and sit for hours (until her father gets home to get punished and his punishments are to smack her...pull her hair...according to him whatever works) or go to bed without dinner...granted this is not abuse abuse but I do not want to think of my son being forced to go without a meal because she caught him running.

 

[Joni_B]

Here in America, kids are PROPERTY and their best interest and rights are ignored so that parents who have absolutely NOTHING positive to offer them can screw their lives up some more. Doesn't matter if the kid is 2 or 15, the judges don't bother to ask the kids what they've been through and what they do or don't want. Then a few years later, that same judge will deem them a bad kid and ship them off to juvie as a result of their earlier ruling that these kids had to go spend summers and weekends with abusive, druggie parents. Its insanity.