School

[shelby kraft]

Jurisdiction

Kansas

I am the custodial parent and I'm wanting to know what the law is or what can be done about a secretary at the school texting the non custodial parent when I take a child out of school for personal things! If it's a dr appointment or school event I tell him because it's in our court papers but other than that I don't have to tell him! When I take the child out of the school the secretary immediately texts him and tells him about it! That's not her business to do so!

 

[Zigner]

You can ask her to stop...

Why are you so concerned about dad knowing these things?

 

[justblue]

I am the custodial parent and I'm wanting to know what the law is or what can be done about a secretary at the school texting the non custodial parent when I take a child out of school for personal things! If it's a dr appointment or school event I tell him because it's in our court papers but other than that I don't have to tell him! When I take the child out of the school the secretary immediately texts him and tells him about it! That's not her business to do so!

Is the early releases effecting the child's grades or causing attendance issues?
Frankly, Dad has a right to know if his child is being taken out of school early...especially if it isn't for medical reasons. Your childrens father has the same rights as you do to be made aware of their educational attendance. Wouldn't you be angry if Dad was taking Jr. from class early and the school didn't notify you about it?

 

[army judge]

I am the custodial parent and I'm wanting to know what the law is or what can be done about a secretary at the school texting the non custodial parent when I take a child out of school for personal things!

I've learned NOT to concern myself with the actions and behaviors of others, EXCEPT if such actions or behaviors could cause HURT, HARM, or INJURY to me.

If you can't IGNORE what others do, you could make an appointment with the principal (or YOUR elected school board member or school superintendent) and ask that the offending school employee immediately CEASE texting your parental business to others.

The problem there is that your former spouse (or other parent of the child) blabs, which is why you know what the employee does.

My simple suggestion is simply do you, be you, control you; and stop worrying/fretting over what others do and say.

Live your best life by focusing only on YOUR life, and ignore things others do as long as their actions don't harm you (and yours).

Life is too much fun and far too short to always be whining, carping, and kvetching.

Live and celebrate each day as if it were your last, for it very well could be.

 

[stealthy1]

I am the custodial parent and I'm wanting to know what the law is or what can be done about a secretary at the school texting the non custodial parent when I take a child out of school for personal things! If it's a dr appointment or school event I tell him because it's in our court papers but other than that I don't have to tell him! When I take the child out of the school the secretary immediately texts him and tells him about it! That's not her business to do so!

How frequently is this happening? Is it for full days or just a bit early/late?

 

[Tax Counsel]

I am the custodial parent and I'm wanting to know what the law is or what can be done about a secretary at the school texting the non custodial parent when I take a child out of school for personal things!

The problem here is that under a federal law called Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act (FERPA) a parent generally has the right to access the educational information about his/her minor children. An exception to that in the case of divorced parents arises if either state law specifies that only one parent (e.g. custodial parent) can get that information or there is a court order that specifically prohibits a parent (e.g. noncustodial parent) from having access to those records. Kansas does not have a law that deals with restricting access to educational records of kids of divorced parents, so that leaves you with having to get a court order that specifically states he is not entitled to get this information. You'd need a compelling reason for the court to order that; simply not liking that he has that information will not be enough. Consult a family lalw law attorney about that if you want to pursue it.

For more information on educational privacy law in Kansas see the article by the Kansas State Department of Education (KSDE).

 

[zddoodah]

I am the custodial parent and I'm wanting to know what the law is or what can be done about a secretary at the school texting the non custodial parent when I take a child out of school for personal things!

There is no law on this; nor is there any legal recourse (unless your custody order expressly prohibits your ex from acquiring this info). You can, of course, complain to this person's supervisor, but I have to wonder what "personal things" are causing you to take your kid out of school, how often it's happening, and why you don't want the NCP knowing about it.

If it's a dr appointment or school event I tell him because it's in our court papers but other than that I don't have to tell him!

Do the papers say that he is prohibited from knowing if you take the kid out of school for other reasons?

That's not her business to do so!

Have you considered that the NCP made it her business by asking her to do this? Perhaps the NCP is concerned that you're negatively impacting your child's education by taking him/her out of school with great frequency for "personal things."