Yes it's true!
Yes, it is quite true what the mortgage company is telling you!
What you are doing now, is making payment on a secured debt in good faith and as things stand, there is nothing the mortgage company can do should you decide to stop the monthly loan payments and for all intents and purposes, the mortgage has been discharged and the house is yours simply because the lender did not attend the creditors meeting that was arranged by the trustee to present their case. In fact, they would be in deep trouble with the bankruptcy court if they make any kind of approach towards you as they will be in contempt of the court's discharge order.
The only way to remedy this situation is for the lender to make a motion to the bankruptcy court for an order for Stay of Discharge, which if granted, will take away the discharge protection you have now and the lender can then proceed against you as per normal. I think the main reason that the lender has not as yet moved for such an order is that you have continued to make the payments on the loan and they see no reason to come and ask for the house.
What you can do to move matters along and enable negotiations between you and the lender, is to contact the bankruptcy trustee who handled your petition and say that you would like to reaffirm your debt with this particular lender. But be very careful as this could turn out to be a double edged sword.
You see, as things are at the moment, the lender is content to keep receiving the payments and cannot alter the loan in any way, shape or form. But if the loan is reaffirmed, they may very well take some drastic measures like recalling the loan, raising the interest rates, or some other adversarial and retaliatory action. Then again, they may not; you just need to make a very informed decision.
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