Hello,
I am new to this forum, and it seems like I may be able to get some help.
I recently filed for child support for my son. Although his dad is not "deadbeat", there are some issues that I have with him. He never wants to help me monetarily. Every time I ask him for money he refuses. So I decided to talk with him about this issue of refusing to help me monetarily. His solution was to "get a boyfriend." So I filed for child support. He, in turn, filed for joint custody in hopes that will lessen or eliminate the child support order. I was informed that I could file for sole custody. But I don't want to do that. I want him to be involved in the decision-making process for our son. However, I do not want to share physical custody for a number of reasons. One is that when he visits his dad, he comes home singing songs with explicit lyrics, claiming he heard them in his dad's (or dad's girlfriend's) car. One song included the lyrics, "Take your freaking clothes off..." And another time he came home making sounds of a sexual nature saying he heard them at his dad's house. By the way, my son is only 4.
So I guess my question is, What can I do to ensure that he does not get joint physical custody, while maintaining the right to make decisions re his son? What might/can happen if I filed for full custody?
Your time and answers are appreciated.
I am new to this forum, and it seems like I may be able to get some help.
I recently filed for child support for my son. Although his dad is not "deadbeat", there are some issues that I have with him. He never wants to help me monetarily. Every time I ask him for money he refuses. So I decided to talk with him about this issue of refusing to help me monetarily. His solution was to "get a boyfriend." So I filed for child support. He, in turn, filed for joint custody in hopes that will lessen or eliminate the child support order. I was informed that I could file for sole custody. But I don't want to do that. I want him to be involved in the decision-making process for our son. However, I do not want to share physical custody for a number of reasons. One is that when he visits his dad, he comes home singing songs with explicit lyrics, claiming he heard them in his dad's (or dad's girlfriend's) car. One song included the lyrics, "Take your freaking clothes off..." And another time he came home making sounds of a sexual nature saying he heard them at his dad's house. By the way, my son is only 4.
So I guess my question is, What can I do to ensure that he does not get joint physical custody, while maintaining the right to make decisions re his son? What might/can happen if I filed for full custody?
Your time and answers are appreciated.