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Married young to much older man and had child. Divorced when child was age 1. Father got everything, I was young and niave, did not know what was legally mine. Father got custody of child. Father left state with child when he was 3 years old. I was told nothing. To my surprise one weekend they were both gone. For a few years there was no clue to whereabouts or contact.
I remarried and started family. X came back to town. Wanted new husband and I to take child. We happily agreed took my child in and changed custody papers. Long story short, X too involved in marriage and confused more, an already confused child. Child went back to father.
Although attempts were made on my part, never heard from child or father. No address or phone #. Child now in six grade contacts us. Wants to live with us. We welcome child in home with us and other children. Child obviously raised in wrong manner had issues and daily trouble with family, school, rules, and respect of any authority. Husband and I worked hard to help child for over 1 year. Child rebelled about everything constantly. Husband feared welfare of our children and family life, so the child went back to father and way of life that he knew.
Did not hear from child or father until the age of 13. Father had told child if I don't take him he will go to foster care. We took him in happily with great hopes and promises. For 18 months daily problems existed with child on everything. Keep long story short, last straw was when 14 son got physical with me. He recently moved out and home with father again. Husband and I have concern for our three young children and my own safety around troubled teen. Problems have only worsen and now he is back with father and wrong child rearing enviroment.
What can I do to protect my children and self from disturbed teen. I don't us to be an option he can be juggled back to. Father also demanding child support money for past years of child's life. What can I do? What options do I have?
Please help
Married young to much older man and had child. Divorced when child was age 1. Father got everything, I was young and niave, did not know what was legally mine. Father got custody of child. Father left state with child when he was 3 years old. I was told nothing. To my surprise one weekend they were both gone. For a few years there was no clue to whereabouts or contact.
I remarried and started family. X came back to town. Wanted new husband and I to take child. We happily agreed took my child in and changed custody papers. Long story short, X too involved in marriage and confused more, an already confused child. Child went back to father.
Although attempts were made on my part, never heard from child or father. No address or phone #. Child now in six grade contacts us. Wants to live with us. We welcome child in home with us and other children. Child obviously raised in wrong manner had issues and daily trouble with family, school, rules, and respect of any authority. Husband and I worked hard to help child for over 1 year. Child rebelled about everything constantly. Husband feared welfare of our children and family life, so the child went back to father and way of life that he knew.
Did not hear from child or father until the age of 13. Father had told child if I don't take him he will go to foster care. We took him in happily with great hopes and promises. For 18 months daily problems existed with child on everything. Keep long story short, last straw was when 14 son got physical with me. He recently moved out and home with father again. Husband and I have concern for our three young children and my own safety around troubled teen. Problems have only worsen and now he is back with father and wrong child rearing enviroment.
What can I do to protect my children and self from disturbed teen. I don't us to be an option he can be juggled back to. Father also demanding child support money for past years of child's life. What can I do? What options do I have?
Please help