mommadrae803
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My situation, as mother of my 4yr old daughter is this. The father and I were married but have divorced, currently have joint custody, but he moved to California and has only seen her once in a year and a half. He does not pay child support. I drew up paers with a paralegal that he signed and I have turned into the courts awaiting a hearing date. The papers will give me sole custody, no set visitation schedule, and he wont pay child support. Well, after I filed with the courts, I found out that sole custody does not give me authority to change her name, or let her get adopted by her future step father. My two main concerns. I thought he was giving up rights by these papers, and her father did too, but this isnt the case. I also read somewhere that childsupport can not be waived. My fiance is in the air force, and is stationed in Germany. I have received my passport and plan on moving there this fall, but not without my daughter. Her father knows of this move and is sending a notarized paper with consent for her to get her passport as well, since we currently still have joint custody. My question is, if I go in front of the judge, without an attorney, and tell him the situation, what will he do, any educated guess of my best way I should approach this. I want him to grant sole custody, and no visitation, will he do that even though the paperwork says no child support payments, or can he rule on that and say he agrees with what my ex and i submitted? I dont want my ex to have rights, can the judge do that with what was submitted or do i need more forms signed and notarized by my ex? Help, please