shonna1976
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My mother and father divorced in 2001. Very unfairly my father was awarded half of my mother's retirement. Per their divorce decree, the retirement is to be divided by qildro. My mom submitted a motion for reconsideration and my father submitted his opposition but for some reason a final ruling was never made.
Now, 7 years later - this should have all been done years ago - my father is taking my mom back to court to get the qildro issued. Qildro is specific to Illinois and is a court order that is sent to mom's retirment stating my father is entitled to a portion. Because of a certain law, for my mom's retirement agency to enforce a qildro, my mother has to sign a consent for the qildro to be issued. No one can sign the consent for her and the court can not compel her to sign it. By law, without that consent, the agency will consider it invalid and will not pay my father. My mother (for good reason) is refusing to sign it.
From what very little I have been able to find in situations like this, when there is a refusal to sign qildro, the court will order that the payments be made triangularly. Once again though, in the little I have found, all of this gets taken care of in a timely fashion. Can my father come back now 7 years later and request that the court now change the divorce decree to state that my mom has to pay him herself? Again, the decree specifically states that is to be divided by means of qildro.
- Side note: Apparently Mom's motion to reconsider is still on the table as well, but I'm trying to review all aspects of this and determine where my mom might stand. Mom hired an attorney but seems to have trouble getting actual contact with her to ask these questions.
I'm begging if anyone knows anything about this, do you think my mom has any chance at not having to pay him?
Now, 7 years later - this should have all been done years ago - my father is taking my mom back to court to get the qildro issued. Qildro is specific to Illinois and is a court order that is sent to mom's retirment stating my father is entitled to a portion. Because of a certain law, for my mom's retirement agency to enforce a qildro, my mother has to sign a consent for the qildro to be issued. No one can sign the consent for her and the court can not compel her to sign it. By law, without that consent, the agency will consider it invalid and will not pay my father. My mother (for good reason) is refusing to sign it.
From what very little I have been able to find in situations like this, when there is a refusal to sign qildro, the court will order that the payments be made triangularly. Once again though, in the little I have found, all of this gets taken care of in a timely fashion. Can my father come back now 7 years later and request that the court now change the divorce decree to state that my mom has to pay him herself? Again, the decree specifically states that is to be divided by means of qildro.
- Side note: Apparently Mom's motion to reconsider is still on the table as well, but I'm trying to review all aspects of this and determine where my mom might stand. Mom hired an attorney but seems to have trouble getting actual contact with her to ask these questions.
I'm begging if anyone knows anything about this, do you think my mom has any chance at not having to pay him?