- Jurisdiction
- New Jersey
We adopted 10 and 12 year old girls in April through DCPP. We allowed contact with a bio brother and grandmother (neither of which had visitation prior to adoption) however the brother is combative and perpetually hostile towards me and oversteps boundaries regarding conversations on the doings of their bio parents (it is not in their best interest to do so). So I cut him off after a conversation with the girls.
He said he has a lawyer and she said he can sue to be a psychological parent. My position is, first of all, he is only 20 years old and lives in another state. He was excluded from custody during the fostering phase due to his age, anger management history, and domestic violence issue. He's rarely seen them for years and he only lived with them as children. During foster care, he was granted zero visitation and whatever contact or visits they had were facilitated by me. They love him but certainly not in a parental way. He also wants to sue for sibling rights but living out of state and considering the girls have literally thrived to the point even their lawyer said that she's never seen anything like it, it will be hard to show that not having contact will be harmful.
I'm not sure if his lawyer has all the facts anyway or that he really actually talked to one because he is speaking in terms of getting custody away from us and bringing them to Virginia. The girls do not want that and have expressed from before they were even adopted that they want to be with us over him.
He said he has a lawyer and she said he can sue to be a psychological parent. My position is, first of all, he is only 20 years old and lives in another state. He was excluded from custody during the fostering phase due to his age, anger management history, and domestic violence issue. He's rarely seen them for years and he only lived with them as children. During foster care, he was granted zero visitation and whatever contact or visits they had were facilitated by me. They love him but certainly not in a parental way. He also wants to sue for sibling rights but living out of state and considering the girls have literally thrived to the point even their lawyer said that she's never seen anything like it, it will be hard to show that not having contact will be harmful.
I'm not sure if his lawyer has all the facts anyway or that he really actually talked to one because he is speaking in terms of getting custody away from us and bringing them to Virginia. The girls do not want that and have expressed from before they were even adopted that they want to be with us over him.