own custody agreement

[jooti]

If my husband and i divorce, and we work out on our own regarding kids's arrangement, should we get a lawyer to put into writing
(i'm afraid he will change his mind etc.)? becuase my husb has agreed that i could have my son mon-fri, then he sat/sun. if it is in writing, then can i pursue him legally if he does not follow our intial agreement? also what's the differnce between separation and divorce? thanks

 

[Duranie]

If you and your husband agree, why dont you go to mediation instead? Unless this agreement is signed off by a judge, it is not legally binding in court. What state are you in? a divorce is final, a seperation isn't. Agreements like this are really not a good idea because one person will often not follow through. Most states offer mediation during a divorce and if you and him agree on things, you might be able to do this.