usafsmith20
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Hey,
Well Im currently at a crossroads. Im filing for divorce, but I torn between fighting for primary/joint custody, or settling for visitation of our 2yr old. My problem is my soon to be exwife, who left for the 2nd time to move in to her 2nd bf. At HIS moms rental property. Wants to move him and all his stuff over 45 mins away from HER grandparents house. She says it will be better cause she works 6 days a week from 9am to 7pm, and off on Weds. Shell be able to take him to her grandparents before she goes to work and pick him up when she gets off. Where he'll stay the nights with her. Now I have a switching work scheldule from days to "nights". 2 months days 6am to 430pm. 2months nites 4pm to 230am. only 5 days a week off on Fri. and Sat. My biggest worry is if she has physical custody and problems arise in her "relationship" she'll have nowhere to stay with him. Cause she has no lease agreement with where shes at shes just stayin there for free, cause shes "with the womans son". And he has no real job only does side work for alil cash, cause hes only 19 and never graduated nor got a GED. I know this for fact cause we used to be close friends. Im truely worried cause if I fight for custody I feel the Judge will say Im not stable enough cause of my work schedule. But I have family MORE than willing to help( ie My Aunt who is a at home mom of a 3yo and 10yo who get along great with our son, plus she lives less than a mile from my home). PLEASE dont get me wrong I dont want to keep her away from our son. I just dont feel comfortable with him living that far away with a guy you cant trust at a place that probably wont last. And then her going out and finding someother loser to bring around our son. SOOOO anyone got any advice to help. I only want whats best for him and if that means just visitation rights I understand.
Well Im currently at a crossroads. Im filing for divorce, but I torn between fighting for primary/joint custody, or settling for visitation of our 2yr old. My problem is my soon to be exwife, who left for the 2nd time to move in to her 2nd bf. At HIS moms rental property. Wants to move him and all his stuff over 45 mins away from HER grandparents house. She says it will be better cause she works 6 days a week from 9am to 7pm, and off on Weds. Shell be able to take him to her grandparents before she goes to work and pick him up when she gets off. Where he'll stay the nights with her. Now I have a switching work scheldule from days to "nights". 2 months days 6am to 430pm. 2months nites 4pm to 230am. only 5 days a week off on Fri. and Sat. My biggest worry is if she has physical custody and problems arise in her "relationship" she'll have nowhere to stay with him. Cause she has no lease agreement with where shes at shes just stayin there for free, cause shes "with the womans son". And he has no real job only does side work for alil cash, cause hes only 19 and never graduated nor got a GED. I know this for fact cause we used to be close friends. Im truely worried cause if I fight for custody I feel the Judge will say Im not stable enough cause of my work schedule. But I have family MORE than willing to help( ie My Aunt who is a at home mom of a 3yo and 10yo who get along great with our son, plus she lives less than a mile from my home). PLEASE dont get me wrong I dont want to keep her away from our son. I just dont feel comfortable with him living that far away with a guy you cant trust at a place that probably wont last. And then her going out and finding someother loser to bring around our son. SOOOO anyone got any advice to help. I only want whats best for him and if that means just visitation rights I understand.
