anonoymous
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- Maryland
I met someone online about 2 years ago. I'm in the US and he's in Canada. We've been talking ever since, we even talked about meeting each other. After getting to know him better, I found he has a very dark side that scares me, he acts insane at times and mentally unstable. This isn't a person that I want to continue to talk to or be with. He's found out too much about me overtime, which is my fault. He's found out where I live, my parents names, our telephone number, where my myself and my mother work, and her work number. I made the mistake of trusting him and liking him. When I met him I was in a lonely place in my life. I had no friends, no one to talk to, I never had a boyfriend, no job, I was taking hardly any college classes, and never thought about my future. Since then I've gotten a job, I'm a full time college student, I've made friends through work, and I'm thinking more about my future and where I want to be. I don't want to be in an "online relationship", especially with someone who is controlling, verbally abusive, threatening, and manipulative. I've found my voice and I speak up for myself now more than ever, and he doesn't like that. For about the last year, I haven't felt right about talking to him or being with him. We argue and fight a lot, each time it gets worse and I leave him only to return. He pulls me back in, making me feel guilty about leaving him. I made the mistake of trusting him and sending him nude photos of myself, my face was not in them. To hear him complimenting me made me feel good and to be honest I didn't really think about it coming back to haunt me. These last few times that we've fought, when I've tried to leave him he would start threatening to post my pictures and call my house to tell my parents about the past 2 years and my photos. He's also threatened to kill himself, ruin my life, show up on my doorstep, and has said that if I leave him he will hurt me. I told him before that if he posts my photos or calls my house, that I will file charges for blackmailing, revenge porn, online harassment, and extortion against him. He told me that I wouldn't know when or where he would post them. I honestly don't know what to do anymore. This has gotten so far out of control. I have anxiety and depression, and since going through this my depression has gotten a lot worse. All I do is cry. I feel trapped and scared. I feel like if I leave my life and possibly even my parents life will be in danger. I don't feel safe, I can't sleep, I get paranoid about every phone call, knock on the door, and creak that I hear. I would feel embarrassed to go to a police station or talk to a lawyer or even my parents about such a situation, I would want to remain anonymous too. I don't even know though how to go about this since he is in another country. I feel like if I went ahead with anything, it might make him want to get more revenge on me and become even more bitter. I did screenshot a few of the threats and messages, but not all as I only started searching for help within the past few weeks and screenshotting the conversation came up in a lot of the answers. Thanks for any advice and help.