My husband "Joe" has custody of his 9 year old daughter "Sue". He has had custody since 2004. When he was still married to his ex wife "Patty" they lived in Oregon. When they split up, Patty originally had custody. Within a year Patty decided to make a suicide attempt (Patty has a history of mental illness). Friends of Patty called Joe and told him he had 24 hours to come pick up Sue or they would have the county take her. At this point, Joe had already moved back to Ohio to live with his parents until he could get back on his feet.
Joe borrows money from his mother, goes to Oregon, picks up Sue, brings her back to Ohio. When the divorce (done in Oregon after the suicide attempt) was complete, it was decided that Sue should remain with her father in Ohio (full physical and legal custody), Patty should never go off her medications again (and should report proof to Joe about taking her meds), and Patty would be allowed to have Sue visit her in Oregon 6 weeks every summer (pending the taking of her meds) and every other Christmas for 2 weeks.
Since then Joe has married me.
Anyways, while Sue is in Oregon visiting her mother we get a call from Sue and Patty stating that Sue wants to live with her mother and wants to go to school in Oregon this year. Mind you, Sue does have some developmental disorders that we were in the process of having diagnosed prior to her trip out to Oregon (and planned to finish the mental health assessment when she came back). These disorders manifest themselves in her inability to understand or respect boundaries which causes her to not be able to make or keep friends and causes her to have problems in school.
Also, mind you, Patty has never submitted proof that she takes her meds nor given Joe the name and number of her psychiatrist.
While Joe and I know that allowing Sue to live in Oregon won't necessarily solve Sue's problems, he is still contemplating allowing it.
What I need is an unbiased, honest description (legally) on what options are available and what the consequences would be for each option. For instance, I know that Patty can't register Sue for school without proof of custody...how long would it take Patty to get legal custody if we allowed it? Things like that.
Sue is due to come back to Ohio on August 18 but Patty and Sue think that Patty can just not put Sue on that airplane and then Sue just gets to live there. Please help.
Joe borrows money from his mother, goes to Oregon, picks up Sue, brings her back to Ohio. When the divorce (done in Oregon after the suicide attempt) was complete, it was decided that Sue should remain with her father in Ohio (full physical and legal custody), Patty should never go off her medications again (and should report proof to Joe about taking her meds), and Patty would be allowed to have Sue visit her in Oregon 6 weeks every summer (pending the taking of her meds) and every other Christmas for 2 weeks.
Since then Joe has married me.
Anyways, while Sue is in Oregon visiting her mother we get a call from Sue and Patty stating that Sue wants to live with her mother and wants to go to school in Oregon this year. Mind you, Sue does have some developmental disorders that we were in the process of having diagnosed prior to her trip out to Oregon (and planned to finish the mental health assessment when she came back). These disorders manifest themselves in her inability to understand or respect boundaries which causes her to not be able to make or keep friends and causes her to have problems in school.
Also, mind you, Patty has never submitted proof that she takes her meds nor given Joe the name and number of her psychiatrist.
While Joe and I know that allowing Sue to live in Oregon won't necessarily solve Sue's problems, he is still contemplating allowing it.
What I need is an unbiased, honest description (legally) on what options are available and what the consequences would be for each option. For instance, I know that Patty can't register Sue for school without proof of custody...how long would it take Patty to get legal custody if we allowed it? Things like that.
Sue is due to come back to Ohio on August 18 but Patty and Sue think that Patty can just not put Sue on that airplane and then Sue just gets to live there. Please help.
