MsPatti123
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I am a concerned mother of a 19 year old boy currently in jail at a Hillsborough county facility in Florida. I do not know what to do and need advice/guidance desperately.
Here is my story: When my son was 18 he met a girl at the age of 15. The father disapproved and filed a restraining order against my son stating that he threatened her on several occasions and she was in fear for her life. It was complete bs.
Myself, and a friend of my son showed up for court on his behalf to dispute the information presented to the judge. We were refused entry. My son in less than 3 minutes was told by the judge the order was in place and not to contact the girl. I spoke to one of the police officers and he forcefully stated to me, "Ma'm, she is 15 your son is 18, period". I told him it was nothing but lies and he stated it didn't matter the father wants your son not to see her again.
Why is this legal? To falsify a legal document and allow the courts to accept this without question? Why we were not allowed to speak on his behalf? Also in the document the father wrote about a conversation we had and omitting the whole truth. I was there to contest the lie since it concerned my conversation with the father.
Here is the kicker: The father is an x-police officer with Hillsborough county sheriff's department and now turned Lawyer! He is this macho alpha male bully type that utilizes the sheriff's department for his benefits. Friends, connections even with judges at the Hillsborough county court house know him and sides, support his lies.
The problem is his daughter will not stop calling him, claiming child abuse from her Father, which is actually true; however, the witnesses are afraid of retaliation from the father. They are all scared of this man. So every time she gets a black eye, fat lip or bruises she calls my son and cries for help. He comes to the rescue and bam, guess who is there? Yep, daddy. Calls 911, blocks his car and calls a judge friend to witness him being at the same location. He is arrested for violating the restraining order.
A year prior to this event my son did something stupid for a friend and was arrested, Misdemeanor, 1 year probation and 100 hours community service. Since this incident is in effect not only was he violated for the restraining order now another charge for violation of probation. 2 for 1
Around a month later, she ran away from home and went through a friend to contact my son to pick her up. She was on drugs and in a comprised situation. Her parents were looking for her all day and they did not call the police for support, Amber alert. Why? Because it would of made daddy look bad in front of the police department and judicial system. My son being who he is picks her up and takes her to a friend's house. Not more than 2 minutes later daddy shows up, door bell, door open, and wham sees my son and calls 911. The girl and my son runs, cops everywhere, they get in a car and 30 seconds later was surrounded by police. I was actually on the phone with him during this time.
Bam, violation #2 equaling for a total of 4. Went to court and daddy stated to the judge he was filing additional charges so they extended another 3 weeks, no bond. Court date comes and the state attorney office stated he filed but they lost the paperwork. They were willing to make a deal and give him 4 years in prison. 4 YEARS! OMG ! Since my lawyer did not receive the discovery he requested another date so he could review another 3 week delay. During this the father stated to the judge he was not finished filing charges.
I believe daddy's tactic is to delay as much as possible. He has no evidence on other circumstances, nothing, nada. He wants to make sure I go broke because for every charge it runs me $1,500. Right now I am at 4, do the math. He also wants to file stalking charges. This man is obsessed in doing harm to my son. He will not stop; he is now on a mission. He is pulling in all his friendship cards so he can prove a point. Point being: "He can".
Please help. I do not know what to do or what to expect. I appreciate any advice you can give. Thank You!
Here is my story: When my son was 18 he met a girl at the age of 15. The father disapproved and filed a restraining order against my son stating that he threatened her on several occasions and she was in fear for her life. It was complete bs.
Myself, and a friend of my son showed up for court on his behalf to dispute the information presented to the judge. We were refused entry. My son in less than 3 minutes was told by the judge the order was in place and not to contact the girl. I spoke to one of the police officers and he forcefully stated to me, "Ma'm, she is 15 your son is 18, period". I told him it was nothing but lies and he stated it didn't matter the father wants your son not to see her again.
Why is this legal? To falsify a legal document and allow the courts to accept this without question? Why we were not allowed to speak on his behalf? Also in the document the father wrote about a conversation we had and omitting the whole truth. I was there to contest the lie since it concerned my conversation with the father.
Here is the kicker: The father is an x-police officer with Hillsborough county sheriff's department and now turned Lawyer! He is this macho alpha male bully type that utilizes the sheriff's department for his benefits. Friends, connections even with judges at the Hillsborough county court house know him and sides, support his lies.
The problem is his daughter will not stop calling him, claiming child abuse from her Father, which is actually true; however, the witnesses are afraid of retaliation from the father. They are all scared of this man. So every time she gets a black eye, fat lip or bruises she calls my son and cries for help. He comes to the rescue and bam, guess who is there? Yep, daddy. Calls 911, blocks his car and calls a judge friend to witness him being at the same location. He is arrested for violating the restraining order.
A year prior to this event my son did something stupid for a friend and was arrested, Misdemeanor, 1 year probation and 100 hours community service. Since this incident is in effect not only was he violated for the restraining order now another charge for violation of probation. 2 for 1
Around a month later, she ran away from home and went through a friend to contact my son to pick her up. She was on drugs and in a comprised situation. Her parents were looking for her all day and they did not call the police for support, Amber alert. Why? Because it would of made daddy look bad in front of the police department and judicial system. My son being who he is picks her up and takes her to a friend's house. Not more than 2 minutes later daddy shows up, door bell, door open, and wham sees my son and calls 911. The girl and my son runs, cops everywhere, they get in a car and 30 seconds later was surrounded by police. I was actually on the phone with him during this time.
Bam, violation #2 equaling for a total of 4. Went to court and daddy stated to the judge he was filing additional charges so they extended another 3 weeks, no bond. Court date comes and the state attorney office stated he filed but they lost the paperwork. They were willing to make a deal and give him 4 years in prison. 4 YEARS! OMG ! Since my lawyer did not receive the discovery he requested another date so he could review another 3 week delay. During this the father stated to the judge he was not finished filing charges.
I believe daddy's tactic is to delay as much as possible. He has no evidence on other circumstances, nothing, nada. He wants to make sure I go broke because for every charge it runs me $1,500. Right now I am at 4, do the math. He also wants to file stalking charges. This man is obsessed in doing harm to my son. He will not stop; he is now on a mission. He is pulling in all his friendship cards so he can prove a point. Point being: "He can".
Please help. I do not know what to do or what to expect. I appreciate any advice you can give. Thank You!
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