stradeteox
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I have a dilema that I hope someone could give me a some good advice and a place to start from.
I will try to keep this short and post more information if needed;
14 years ago while stationed overseas my girlfriend at the time became pregnant. She had dual citezenship (German and American) and left Germany to file for a divorce from her American husband (I too am American).
I never heard from her again. She recognciled with her husband and had our baby while living in California. A year later I found out she was divorced, living back in Germany and that she had a young baby (I was now living back in the US). I was able to contact her by phone living with her parents, but she would not tell me if I was the father (I knew I probably was). We lost contact after 10 months (and becuase I got tired of her not giving me an honest answer - or maybe she didn't know).
A year later she called to find out if Epilepsy ran in my family since our child had taken a fall. This was the first time she ever admitted I was the father. I was now remarried and completely surprised to hear about this. I asked her if this meant I was the father and she said yes. I never heard from her again after this.
I tried every couple of years to contact her by phone (I always got the grandmother on the phone) but never received a reply from the mother nor did I ever get her on the phone.
Finally now after 12 years I have found her again in Germany with her own address and phone number. As it turns out she is not raising our child (her parents are). I have received photos of my child that are recent. I have no doubt the child is mine as she looks exactly like me and my current children. I would stake my life on it and submit to a blood test.
The mother has told me that the grandparents know about me and that I am the father (I have these statements in emails). I have snet a letter of introduction to the grandparents with my wish to know wbout my child (which in turn infuriated the mother). Apparently there is something being hidden from me or the mother is not being honest with me. I feel the mother never spends time with our child or perhaps is mentally unstable.
After just 2 months of contact the mother has cut me off and will not speak to me. I want to know my child and I would at the very least like for my child to be able to find me someday if she wishes. The child does not have my last name and I am not listed on the birth certificate.
Can I go to court to establish paternity and have my name added to the child's birth certificate? I do not know if the ex-husband had his name removed from the birth certificate, but I will find out soon.
Also, is there any chance since the child was born in the US that I may be able to seek visitation? Will I have to pay child support or back support? I know the mother receives money from the German government for being a single parent.
Finally, if I have a chance at being able to get any of this done through the court is this enforceable overseas (and how would that be done)?
I know I probably need to talk to an attorney, but I am wondering if I even have a chance here. Thanks in advance for any advice.
I will try to keep this short and post more information if needed;
14 years ago while stationed overseas my girlfriend at the time became pregnant. She had dual citezenship (German and American) and left Germany to file for a divorce from her American husband (I too am American).
I never heard from her again. She recognciled with her husband and had our baby while living in California. A year later I found out she was divorced, living back in Germany and that she had a young baby (I was now living back in the US). I was able to contact her by phone living with her parents, but she would not tell me if I was the father (I knew I probably was). We lost contact after 10 months (and becuase I got tired of her not giving me an honest answer - or maybe she didn't know).
A year later she called to find out if Epilepsy ran in my family since our child had taken a fall. This was the first time she ever admitted I was the father. I was now remarried and completely surprised to hear about this. I asked her if this meant I was the father and she said yes. I never heard from her again after this.
I tried every couple of years to contact her by phone (I always got the grandmother on the phone) but never received a reply from the mother nor did I ever get her on the phone.
Finally now after 12 years I have found her again in Germany with her own address and phone number. As it turns out she is not raising our child (her parents are). I have received photos of my child that are recent. I have no doubt the child is mine as she looks exactly like me and my current children. I would stake my life on it and submit to a blood test.
The mother has told me that the grandparents know about me and that I am the father (I have these statements in emails). I have snet a letter of introduction to the grandparents with my wish to know wbout my child (which in turn infuriated the mother). Apparently there is something being hidden from me or the mother is not being honest with me. I feel the mother never spends time with our child or perhaps is mentally unstable.
After just 2 months of contact the mother has cut me off and will not speak to me. I want to know my child and I would at the very least like for my child to be able to find me someday if she wishes. The child does not have my last name and I am not listed on the birth certificate.
Can I go to court to establish paternity and have my name added to the child's birth certificate? I do not know if the ex-husband had his name removed from the birth certificate, but I will find out soon.
Also, is there any chance since the child was born in the US that I may be able to seek visitation? Will I have to pay child support or back support? I know the mother receives money from the German government for being a single parent.
Finally, if I have a chance at being able to get any of this done through the court is this enforceable overseas (and how would that be done)?
I know I probably need to talk to an attorney, but I am wondering if I even have a chance here. Thanks in advance for any advice.