need advice and help and Im overwhelmed

[sohma2501]

my partner have beening dealing with this for almost three years.tommorrow I go to court.in 2007 my oldest son had a bully issue/death threat at school did nothing.the school called dcf on me numurous times on me,for everytime that I would call and say my child is getting hurt.I called school police on a friday and then on the next monday dcf came and took my kids.
my partner and I are boring people,no history of abuse,drugs or anything.look it up and you will see very little if anything.my partner and I have been together for 13 years.
my brother in law has custody of kids for now and has decided he wants to keep the kids.I have reports that have proved my innocennceof charges.the school cop said I have dropped my daughter on her head in front of him and she was 3 months at the time-dcf paperwork says there were no marks found on the child.but they didnt give the kids back.
I have been through nurmurous judicial reviews,several psych evals some not done properly.,drug tests,passed the drug tests,partening classes,anger classes,thearpy.I have been through 3 meditions,2 of those formal,dont have a case plan because that expiared in dec and the dec case plan was temp because it was suppose to cover a gap because my case plan had expired for a few months.Im on my 3rd case worker who doesnt do her job right just whats easy and conveint for her.
I have had tpr tried twice-both times dropped and once with permanant guardingship once that was dropped too.dcf likes my brother in law,why i dont know,he lets one of my daughters go with a friend every day to happy hour-I have said something and no one listens.my brother in law is bankruptting me so he can get the kids,everyone knows it but does nothing about it.
im put in crontradicting situtations which force me to choose what I can do or not do.such as I can see my kids or I can go to family thearpy Im not able to do both do to montary issues no one cares.I got to court tommorrow for reunifacation/permant guardingship,i have no idea what to do any help/question would be greatly needed.if a question is asked I will do my best to clarify and explain-thanks for your time.

 

[Proserpina]

Are you saying that DCF haven't given you a plan to complete?

Does your brother-in-law have temporary custody?

What is tomorrow's court date actually for? For your brother-in-law to obtain permanent guardianship/custody?

 

[sohma2501]

I have been through 3 or 4 case plans,with each case plan having been completed.only to have more stuff put on and then said stuff done,to the case plan just ran out of time even though everything was done on it.

brother in law has temporary custody but wants to adopted the kids

court tommorrow is before a senior judge for evidentiary hearing on motion to return custody/motion for permanent guardianship.

i feel I have never been give a fair chance/trial.I have dealt with a lot of abuse from judges,case workers,family,gla,and dcf lawyers.everyone seems more concerned with covering thier butt then saying they made a mistake.
the court appointed lawyers arent great,they seem to do only so much.the truth doesnt seem to matter,my case is insane but no one whos involed seems to get it,its scary and sad and my children suffer the most.

 

[PQN2]

Sohma,

How did court go?

 

[jharris352]

This is why I HATE most Family and Children Services departments. I spend a good deal of my time fighting for one person or another. They have a necessary job when it's necessary. Many times they are simply bullies. All I can tell you is to get an attorney before you lose your children permanently.

 

[sohma2501]

Im confused and lost.court went bad,what else is new.Im finding out things like how a guardiam at litam is/was filing paperwork for child support and other court things I though they couldnt do this-can anyone claify for me.I foumd out more stuff about child support and its scary,i need help understanding.
everyone who has been a part of the case knows that myself and my partner are innocent and that my brother in law wants my kids,i cant make this stuff up,yet I cant seem to get my case thrown out.
at court -this is what happened-a week earlier,the new case worker came into the house saying she needed to do a home study,I have had like 7 done and I have passed,we were having a problem with smoke dectors which was fixed,the case worker said she was going to write up the home study and be done
the case worker threw me under the bus so she and dcf could have closure to he case for now-the case worker failed the home study for get this--1-there was some stuff on the table,basically mail that I hadent had time to go through yet--she doesnt have pets,she doesnt like animals-the cat just used the litter box
which in turn cased a stalemate in court-
permant guarding ship till the new family threapist decides that the kids need more time with us,then we go back to court and start this insanity again,only this time no guardians at litams just get a home study to pass and supposadly the kids will get to come home
meanwhile I get no help from dcf to maintain what I have,I have lost a lot of money going to court-like hundreds of dollars each time and the fact that my brother in law is saying hes poor,yet he,my brother in law goes out and buys a new boat and says to my face 'does it look like I need your money?'Im about to lose everything i have worked for.
this case is more like a divorce case then anything else,it has more twists then most tv shows and its horrible because my children suffer.
I have no idea what to do right now,Im really sad and lost as to waht I can do,it seems all I can do is wait on the new theapist recommandations and try again.
any help,dieas,thoughts,suggestions would be great.questions I will try to clarify-one last note my lawyer thought the case was werid from the get go becasue of the guardian at litam asking for and filing paperwork for child support.thoughts,ideas,on that one would be of great help thanks again.