My X wants to apply for weekend custody of my 7 week old son

[lnormad]

My x is wanting to take me to court to have his son every second weekend. He ha snot yet paid child support but i know it will be starting soon as he has now got a job. I know his only doing this to spite me, as i have never stopped him from seeing his son... i had a c-section so i couldnt drive and my son was very grumpy as he has colic so i explained to the x, that i coulndt come around for 2-3 weeks, but he was welcome to come meet me at the front of my house to go for a walk or cafe or park to see his son. ( he is not welcome at my house, he has done too much damage while i was pregnant, as he didnt want me to have the baby etc ). But he hadnt come around and hardly called, its been 3 weeks and he hasnt seen his son. 4th week his sick and says he will see him the following week... Then X wanted to me to go to his house and i said no, ot until he comes to and sees his son. he agreed to meet the following day.. Teh following day came and he msgs to come to his house instead, I said no ( again ) i said u have not once made and effort to see ur son and i refuse to hand him over on a silver platter, I have gone out of my way to make it possible to see him, so now make an effort.. Until u make an effort to come to ur son, i will not come around.. So then he replied with Ok i will see u court, i legally have the right to have him every second weekend.

how difficult will it be for him? does he really have the right to have him over night at such a young age? what are my chances? what can i do to prevent this from happening?
thanks

 

[lnormad]

also, he was not there for my pregnancy or birth, he didnt want to have this baby and put me through hell wile i was pregnant. with abusive messages etc...

 

[Duranie]

He is dad and he is entitled to see his son. He has no rights anyways while you are pregnant so he is not required to be around. Once paternity is established it is pretty normal to have every other weekend for visitation depending on the age of the baby. If the child is still an infant though, you can ask that visit be supervised until the baby is a little older. Yuo csn start off with a few hours a week a your place. Nobody kmows what the courts will predict but it is possible he may get unsupervised visits. You'll have to talk this over with an attorney.

 

[jacksgal]

His failure to pay support or help while you carried child mean nothing! When you decided to have poorly protected or unprotected sex with him you bonded the two of you forever. He has all the same rights as you do this includes custody, visitation and support. You cannot legally keep his child from him. If you are breast feeding weekend visits are not likely. To make things simple for all parties and the child you and Dad should come up with a parenting plan.

 

[lnormad]

i have never stopped him frm having contact.. on the contrary, i was upset that he didnt make an effort to see his son. I just needed to know whether or not he could get weekend over night rights when the baby is only so young.
PS it was not unprotected sex with my partner of 4 1/2 years. we were protected.

 

[jacksgal]

It sounds like you are trying to keep him from seeing child. Without a court order ther eis no "must" however if Dad has court ordred visitation then you must comply or face possible contempt charge. If no court order exist get one!

 

[lnormad]

oh no, i am not stopping him from seeing his child. I have gone out of my way for him to see his child. i have been bringin the child to his house....That is why i think its crazy that he wants to take me to court, coz i have never ever stopped him from seeing his child... Ive just expected more of an effort from hisbehalf,to also come see his child, not just making me bring his child to him...

 

[jacksgal]

Then when in court ask for shared travel expense